Pregnant alone and depressed

[Ldavis90]

Hello ladies
I am a mommy 2 b expecting on December. However other than that I have nothing to look forward to or depend on. I am very depressed and weak during this pregnancy, which isn't safe or healthy for my baby. I feel all alone and deserted. My child's father is terrible, I wish I never got pregnant by him. Can't cry over spilt milk though right. I know months from know this funk I'm in may be all over, but I am hurting now. Don't know what to do. Just ready to give up!. Any advice and support is welcome and appreciated.

[ashleighmama]

Oh mama, Im so sorry youre going through this. I dont really have advice but Im here for you. Do you have other kids? Any other family that are supportive? How far along are you?

[mrsvixen]

Is this your first?? One of the things that would get me really excited would be the daily/weekly progress reports. Seeing what my baby looks like now, what's happening to my body.......

[Ldavis90]

Yes this is my first child. I'm going on 4 months in a couple weeks. I'm barely showing haven't told my family because I know the support won't be there how it should because they will feel as though I shouldn't be preggo. So I kinda just keep everything to myself and pray for better days

[Ldavis90]

Yes I have some up to date ultrasounds which keeps me going but only for so long.

[reindeer-c]

You might be surprised at your families reaction. Hopefully they will be there for you. Share your news. A baby is a blessing and you should not be going through this alone. It happened to me at 13 and I hid it for months because I did not want to be forced to have an abortion. My daughter is now 23 and an awesome person who graduated college with a criminal justice degree. Her dad was also a piece of shit. Hugs!!!

[matreshka]

Going to a therapist might help.  I went to one when I was pregnant with my first and it helped me to get my emotions out and stay away from meds. Also Like reindeer said you might be suprised at your families' reation.  Mine were overjoyed both times I told them, even though they were both unplanned and the first I was single.

Also it takes time to adjust to being pregnant. I found that out with my second. He was a suprise and at first I was upset about it but once he was born that all changed.

[Dereksmom1018]

I had tremendous support from my work friends. They were totally there for me. Can you tell people at work. They will be excited for you. They see you every day. I had depression and went off my Zoloft during pregnancy so I needed to lean on others pretty heavily

[Ldavis90]

I couldn't couldn't imagine going through pregnancy at 13, you are a brave and strong woman :). Yes your right I'd be surprised at how my family feels but you know that support and support from the child's father isn't the same. Pregnancy is supposed to be made easy and be happy well that's how I envisioned it, but for me it's seeming like one of the worst lowest points of my life. I don't wanna have post p depression after the baby and I don't want to get bad to the point I need meds

Quoting reindeer-c:

You might be surprised at your families reaction. Hopefully they will be there for you. Share your news. A baby is a blessing and you should not be going through this alone. It happened to me at 13 and I hid it for months because I did not want to be forced to have an abortion. My daughter is now 23 and an awesome person who graduated college with a criminal justice degree. Her dad was also a piece of shit. Hugs!!!

[Ldavis90]

Yes I have been really thinking about seeing a therapist but can't find any in my area. For some reason I find it easier to talk to a stranger than a person that I know that will be jusgemental. You are absolutely right being pregnant takes some gettin used to

Quoting matreshka:

Going to a therapist might help.  I went to one when I was pregnant with my first and it helped me to get my emotions out and stay away from meds. Also Like reindeer said you might be suprised at your families' reation.  Mine were overjoyed both times I told them, even though they were both unplanned and the first I was single.

Also it takes time to adjust to being pregnant. I found that out with my second. He was a suprise and at first I was upset about it but once he was born that all changed.

[Ldavis90]

Support is the key in life for anything a person is going through. I don't have much of it though. No I'm not working at the time !

Quoting Dereksmom1018:

I had tremendous support from my work friends. They were totally there for me. Can you tell people at work. They will be excited for you. They see you every day. I had depression and went off my Zoloft during pregnancy so I needed to lean on others pretty heavily