Don't know which way to go or who to trust anymore..
I'm trying to get over and through alot of things that have happened in my life that really have torn me up on the inside and I just don't know how to get over it and through it.
I married a man that I had known for yrs and I thought at that time that we were the best of friends cause in the yrs that we had been friends and seeing one another we confided in each other about so much. We had so many things in common with each other and we enjoyed spending time together. I also knew his sister that I called my sister, She and I had a very strong bond and at the time that her brother and I were seeing each other everything was fine, even though he and I found out that his sister was coming back to each of us behind one anothers back telling us negative things about each other. He and I would confront one another on the issues being said about us and we found out that it was just lies, but my issue was "WHY" was she lying on each of us? When I would confront her she'd tell me that it wasn't true what I heard about her talking about me..I wanted so badly to believe in her and trust her cause like I said she was like an older sister to me (a sister that I always wanted).
Once her brother and I got married and had a child together things got even worse because instead of her being happy for us like I thought that she would be, she'd be smiling in my faceand talking about me behind my back like a dog. Even to their mother!!! I would tell him how bad thesse things bothered me and tell him to handle it but, he claimed that he did, but never handled any of it in front of me. So to me he didn't handle any of it. We went on like this for yrs and I got so fed up with it and then the last thing that really blew my mind was when it was him, our daughter and me on the phone talking with his sister and she cme out and made a comment about me sleeping with a cousin of theirs that he knew for a fact that I can't stand!!! He pissed me off by "NOT" making any words in my defense as his wife...my husband knew the facts and how things were going and he still did nothing in my defense. We have now divorced and he's still calling me telling me how much he loves me and needs me and I have made it very clear how I feel about him and his family and that we will never-ever get back together under any circumstances. All of the children are now grown and have moved on with their lives.
His sister recently was going through some health issues and she called me for me to send out prayers for her and to give her strength, I did cause that is the kind of person that I am..but I don't trust or like her any more as a friend or anything, just like with him.
Now that I've moved on with my life I don't know who to trust anymore..How do we learn to trust ppl anymore? Give me ur advice..