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Posted by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:43 AM
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    Im 26 and i have had five child lost i have no living children and don't think i will ever have them. i have a messed up uterus and cervix. i have never gotten over the death of my babies and i have no one who understands my pain. all of my brother , sisters and friends are having kids and im always feeling left out, when they want to talk about all the things they kids are doing or sharing pictures. it really makes me sad i would love to be a mommy to a child and give them the best life but doesn't look like that's gonna happen. my boyfriend has to step kids(none of his own just his ex girlfriends kids ) so even when i go home i have to still feel left out cause im no ones mom in any type of way i just don't know what to do but cry and start to hate the world. i just wish i had a friend a real one

by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:43 AM
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matreshka
by Ruby Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:50 AM

(((hugs))) That must be so devestating and I can understand how all of the talk about kids hurts so bad.  Have you ever talked to a therapist or read any books on grieving?  If your religious or spiritual, talking to leadership in your faith may help you to find some peace with in yourself. I am buddhist, and I find that my faith has helped me through understanding the bad things in life.

nene0910
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 10:58 AM

yeah ive tried all those things it helps sometimes but it doesnt take the pain away and the feeling left out never goes away it seems to get worst

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:01 AM

That kind of grief must be horrible to experience.  *hugs*

Have you considered adoption?  I know it's not the same but is it a viable alternative?  There are some really great children out there who would love a mother like you :)

matreshka
by Ruby Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:01 AM

It won't ever completely go away but try to keep working on it so that you can manage the feelings.  I know it's hard.  (((Hugs)))

Quoting nene0910:

yeah ive tried all those things it helps sometimes but it doesnt take the pain away and the feeling left out never goes away it seems to get worst


nene0910
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:02 AM

thank you

nene0910
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:04 AM

i thought about is but its nothing like having ur own tht acts like u or looks like u i just really want my own

lyrick24
by Ruby Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:30 AM

 what is wrong with your uterus and cervix? have you looked into it and seen if there is something they can do about it? i wouldnt give up just yet. but i would see an infertility specailist.

nene0910
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 11:53 AM

yes ive looked into i know whats wrong and seen a specialist they dont have to many more options left

JansRainbow
by on Aug. 21, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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I am sorry for your losses. I know you want your own children, but there are so many kids out there waiting adoption. All ages. You sound like you have a  lot of love to give. You could make a child have a new beginning. I will keep you in my prayers. Don't give up. You never know what God has planned for you. I would check out other support groups or counseling.Having my church helps me get through it all. Take care. Sending hugs.

mrsvixen
by Gold Member on Aug. 21, 2012 at 1:01 PM
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I'm so sorry for your losses momma! Some people don't realize that even if the child is not born, it is still a devastating loss. Is there nothing the doctors can do to help you go full term?

I'm sure you've heard this, but have you thought of adotping?? There are sooooooo many children who

need love and family. You could potentially saving a child.

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