Practical advice, when you do something stupid...
OK, not sure if it's just me, but probably not.
When you do something stupid- miss a meeting, forget to give your kid something for school, pay a bill late, whatever... whatever it is that makes you hate yourself and think "you idiot- you forgot and let people down and blah blah blah..."
What would be a smart thing to think instead? The best I can come up with is "nobody will even remember this is 20 years" but actually, I'm not sure. Some times, we are developing relationships and when we mess up, we are messing that relationship up more and more.
My personal situation is: just got back from vacation, husband was sick, kids were crazy, trying to plan the next couple of weeks as school starts Monday... anyway, forgot a meeting that I had specifically planned with lots of people because it was a good day for me. The meeting was with my son's best friend's mother. I have done things like this to her before. I will put another post on organisation elsewhere, but really I feel super-irritable and depressed about it, because I let her down and confessing to yet another mistake and apologising yet again doesn't seem like the thing to do, and I don't know how to get out of the mind-set that I'm a terrible person and overall making it into a bigger matter than it is.
I know a lot of us have little "mantras" we tell ourselves to replace negative self-talk, and if you do have one for a situation like this, I wanted to know what you'd use here.