Social Anxiety- conflict-free conversation topics
For those of us with social anxiety, my new thing is to come up with a list of things that are OK to talk about with strangers so that I always have something to say when around strangers. If you don't have SA, this might sound stupid, but for those of us who do, how about it?
NB: Many of us with SA are really bad at judging if we are too personal or stand-offish, so I'm picking subjects that aren't likely to run into this. Also, I want to avoid the nastiness of politics, because I hate conflict (yes, I'm a mess). I also avoid asking about work, because I don't work so that topic dies an ugly death fast when they ask me back, or if they're unemployed and about to lose their house.
--Differences between where you live and they do ("have you ever visited Place X? What did you think of it? I really like this local scenery/park. Do you know a good restaurant nearby?")
--Hobbies, ie "What do you do in your spare time?" (only works if they don't reply "I don't have spare time")
--Travels- "Have you ever been to Place Z?"
--Music/moveis/books- these are good because you can learn something about them and no potential for conflict, BUT kind of awkward if you're someone who almsot never likes the same stuff as they do
Anything else? I know I'm not the only one with SA here, there are tons of us!
I know I was at a funeral last week and the people I knew, I could talk to them about their recent facebook posts (because those topics are always OK) or their studies or travels. So this is for people we don't know and aren't on fb.