Okay my oldest neice dropped out of high school about 3 months before we was going to graduate because she felt it was too hard because the teachers were mean. Well she tested several times for her GED and passed most of the exams except the Math portion of it. Well she went back about three times to re-test the Math part and this last time she failed again. So, she is now on facebook saying how much she sucks and how much she is a failure and yada yada yada. So, I commented today and asked her what was wrong and if there was anything I could do to help And if she is upset because she didn't pass her test (*note* I did not bring up it was a GED test...just that it was a test..it could of been a blood test or a vision test...or her ACT). Now, everyone else that asked her if she was okay she responded nicely. When I commented she snaped at me and said "Why don't you stop bothering me I don't need any help". First I don't bother her at all. I comment every now and again on her facebook. Or send her a card for her birthday and christmas. I feel that since now she is an adult and wants to spend time with me, she will call me and do so. The only time she came to see me in the last year is to pick up a scarf I made her and she didn't even stay to chat for a bit. She just took the scarf and left.
I am at the point to tell her what the hell her problem is. I don't know if it's because we are closer in age (I'm 32 and she is 23.) because my sister is 10 years older than me.
I don't get it why she needs to disrepect me when I love her and just want to help.
Last year she was serious with a guy who was older and after a few months of them together I sent him a friend request (after everyone else in the immediate family added him as a friend) she wrote me a long letter about how I need to ask her permission to do these things even after everyone else including her other Aunt who is the same age as me had him as a friend and she didn't get yelled at. Is it just me?
So, should I just message her and tell her that I was just trying to help and that she needs to give me respect before she earns it. Or should I just cut her off all together.