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How many of us do this?

Posted by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:51 AM
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Sometimes it's so much easier to just say "Fine" than try to get into it with somebody about how you're really feeling.

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:51 AM
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Serenity7
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:56 AM

 I do since I am a very private person

proudmommy690
by Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:58 AM
Every single day.
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JTMOM422
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:07 AM

Wow that is me in a nutshell

anotherandree
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:14 AM

FINE - F (Feelings) I (Inside) N (Not) E (Expressed)

I say it to everyone but my best friend.  Even my husband most of the time.  I just don't like to talk about my feelings.  I would much rather hear about them.

Tracys2
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:49 AM
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How many of us are ever asked this except in passing? I can't remember the last time someone came up to me when I was sitting or standing around and asked how I was. They only ask while passing in the hall, so you can only do the following answers, or similar.

"good/great"- yay! People say this a lot and usually I think it's true

"fine"- could be anything, usually there is no thought involved. I have said this in absolute despair BUT also in great joy. Agreed that with people I don't trust, I tend to use this one.

"OK"- not as good as fine. I take this as a call for help.

<shrug> when the person can't even talk, that's definitely a sign of issues

mamalena137
by Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 12:07 PM

I do that a lot. I shut down a lot when it comes to asking about my feelings, especially if I feel on the defense.

diaperstodating
by Bronze Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM
I do that often.
flowrsgalore
by Bronze Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 12:34 PM

yup, this is for when you slap on that smile & just say "oh pretty good" Or some other super quick answer so you can get away. because no way are you really going get into it w/ so and so about how you really feel.

mlkmom03
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 12:57 PM
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F: Fearful

I: Insecure

N: Neurotic

E: Empty

I say "I'm fine" all the time!!


ashleighmama
by Ashleigh on Jan. 8, 2013 at 1:59 PM
I always heard this: F fucked up I insecure N neurotic E emotional. But yes, I say fine most of the time because I don't want people to see the craziness that goes on inside my head.
Ashleigh
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