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Carrot, Egg or Coffee?

Posted by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:56 AM
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Which one are you?


A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

---AUTHOR UNKNOWN

by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 8:56 AM
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elwalters77
by Erica on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:06 AM
I admit, I have often been like the carrot, but I'm becoming more like the coffee. :) I think DH is the egg, but has the potential to be coffee.
leahbeah143
by Leah on Jan. 23, 2013 at 9:48 AM

 wow, that's really cool! I have been like the egg for years.

deltathree
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:17 PM

this is good - just saw it on fb,too!

matreshka
by Ruby Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:24 PM

Great story.  I am most often like the egg but would like to be more like coffee.

chasingrandbaby
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:17 PM

this is interesting, I am like a carrot

ChocolateJunky
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:36 PM

Very interesting. During my pregnancy, I went from being a coffee bean to a carrot. I think now I'm more like the egg. It's strange reading this and realizing how strong I used to be. I hope I can get back to that state of mind again.

ChocolateJunky
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:37 PM

Dh is definately an egg. Used to, when I'd get upset he would tell me that positive thoughts lead to positive actions. Now he's so negative. We've been through so much together, so I can really blame him for building up defense walls.

flowrsgalore
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:01 PM

I don't know, I really have not faced that many tough ordeals in life.  I kind of think I'm a carrot during the ordeal, but give me enough time I'll be back to tough  for the next boiling

Serenity7
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:37 PM

 None

icn_mom
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 3:11 PM

I absolutly love this!!! I would love to see myself as the coffee, but i know Im more like an egg lol

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