So my 13-yr old just ran up the stairs crying....again. According to my husband I was too rough on her. All I told her was that she couldn't have a sleep-over for her birthday party. My reasons were: that she doesn't listen when she is around her friends, in the past she has done inappropriate things when she has her friends over for a sleep over (raiding the kitchen cupboard, leaving dirty dishes out everywhere, jumping from her bed onto the mini couch in her room and then back and forth, being rude to everyone in her family, etc), plus I don't want to have to stay up until 2 or 3am in order to monitor her and her friends. Am I being too hard on her? I know that with my depression I do see things through a negative lens, and it IS her birthday, but I really don't want to have to deal with all this sleep-over crap if I don't have to. My 11-yr old just had a sleep over party last week and that went fine. Her friends were respectful and listened to us when we told them they needed to have lights out at a certain time and to quiet down...I just know my 13-yr old and her friends won't behave the same way. Any feedback would be appreciated...thanks!