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Overwhelmed!

Posted by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 10:22 AM
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I'm so overwhelmed with life right now! I injuried my knee in November, I've had therapy amd was trying to rehab without surgery but twisted it a few weeks ago and now I have to have surgery. My youngest ds caught the flu 3 days before Christmas, he's then had walking pneumonia and was diagnosed with mild ADHD. DH works out of town a lot so doctors appointments are left up to me. I was on the phone for close to 2 hours with my insurance company and doctors offices this morning trying to get benefits and find a specialist for my ds. I haven't felt good myself and bc DH is out of town I am left to play mom and dad for both of our boys. DH is stressed with his job so I can't vent to him. I just keep it all bottled up and now I'm at work on the verge of crying bc I'm so stressed.
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Nols
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:30 AM

I would seriously suggest you talk to your dh soon.  Please dont bottle it all up inside.  Speak to your family and friends if you can, but dont keep quiet about how you are feeling.  It will not end well if you do. 

Personally, I think that our dh need to be involved in everything we go through, whether they have a stressful job or not.  You did not decide to have a family on your own or to be mom and dad to your kids.  Dont let this go on.

Get help from your community and family and friends.  Whatever you do, dont keep on keeping quiet.  Its the worst thing you can do, trust me...  HUGS :-)

leahbeah143
by Leah on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:49 AM

 hugs! your dh should know how you're feeling, it's not healthy to keep everything bottled up inside.

lexismom90
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:51 AM
I am sorry sweetie. I would still try to talk to your dh about how you are feeling and that everything is just so overwealming to you right now. Try to see if friends or family can help out once in a while.
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lyrick24
by Ruby Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 11:52 AM

 try making a list of things you need to accomplish and work on them one at a time.i know it is hard on you handling everything yourself. i always have my husband call the insurance when we need to even though he is stationed at fort benning, ga in the army and i am here in va. maybe you can get him to help you our a little bit. hope everything goes ok and your ds gets better.

TS9509
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:03 PM
The boys and I are on the insurance thru my company and they won't speak with DH unless I call in first and say its ok and by the time I get to that point it's just easier for me to ask the questions.


Quoting lyrick24:

 try making a list of things you need to accomplish and work on them one at a time.i know it is hard on you handling everything yourself. i always have my husband call the insurance when we need to even though he is stationed at fort benning, ga in the army and i am here in va. maybe you can get him to help you our a little bit. hope everything goes ok and your ds gets better.


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TS9509
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:04 PM
We live over an hour away from family and friends :(


Quoting lexismom90:

I am sorry sweetie. I would still try to talk to your dh about how you are feeling and that everything is just so overwealming to you right now. Try to see if friends or family can help out once in a while.

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TS9509
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:08 PM
It's very true that I didn't become a mom alone but at the same time oldest ds is actually my step son but his mom isn't involved so I feel that I should step up for him to have a positive mother figure in his life and youngest ds is mine from a previous marriage and his dad is deceased so I was mom and dad for a few years to him so I'm use to it.

I just don't want my DH to be stressed with his job, then become stressed with "me and my stress" on top of that. When he is home he is an awesome help such as cooking and doing stuff around the house that needs to be done. I wish I could just have him home during the week to help get the kids where they need to go.


Quoting Nols:

I would seriously suggest you talk to your dh soon.  Please dont bottle it all up inside.  Speak to your family and friends if you can, but dont keep quiet about how you are feeling.  It will not end well if you do. 


Personally, I think that our dh need to be involved in everything we go through, whether they have a stressful job or not.  You did not decide to have a family on your own or to be mom and dad to your kids.  Dont let this go on.


Get help from your community and family and friends.  Whatever you do, dont keep on keeping quiet.  Its the worst thing you can do, trust me...  HUGS :-)


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