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Intervention... (UPDATE)

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I'm so upset. I tried to do the right thing. For over a year, my dad has been telling me these awful things that go on in his home with his future stepson. It's such a mess. Well, the stepson made murder/suicide threats a few nights ago and got arrested. It scared me so much because I had to find out about it through the city's facebook page. He's been arrested 5 times now since he's been there and things just keep getting worse. When I tried to tell my dad how I felt, he failed to mention to me that I was on speaker phone with his fiance and her son standing right next to him. And yet again, he says, "Hey don't tell your mom or anyone about this."

Well you know what? It dawned on me that he as a parent should be confiding in his fiance, NOT his daughter. What kind of father dumps a load of scary information on his child and then tells her not to tell anyone?! I had it. The second I found out that he let my SB move back in after being released from jail, I lost it. I called his sister, my sister, and cousin, who he's been lying to this whole time. Then I caught myself saying, "Don't tell him I called you..." and realised I was doing the exact same thing that he was doing to me. So I wrote him a letter this morning and told him that I let everyone know what has been going on. I wrote it and rewrote it several times until it sounded reasonable enough.

The next thing I know, he's calling me and yelling at me for upsetting his sister and saying how wrong I was for saying something. I told him I wasn't wrong, but that I did what needed to be done, and he hung up. So I texted him. I have a hard time standing up to my dad, and writing is just easier since I can take the time to think about what I'll say. I told him how I was amazed that he's so concerned about how this news is affecting his sister, yet he has no worries about what it's been doing to his own daughter. Was I wrong?


UPDATE: I still haven't spoken with my dad. I'm too hurt by everything he's done and said, and I don't want to hear anymore from him. SB called me and went on this rant about how everyone hates him and how he can't survive on his own because he's got a broken leg (the whole reason he's been living there) and now his life is over because they are kicking him out. Then SM texts me and tells me to quit talking to him. You know, I don't really care anymore. I'm done. They can be mad at me all they want, but I did what needed to be done. I honestly haven't felt happier since I quit talking to my dad. I wish I could tell him how much he's hurt me, but I need to wait until all of this with SB blows over.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:51 PM
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by Group Admin on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:33 PM

 i hope you and your dad can reconsile.

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