*update* he came home Wednesday night. Things were awkward but he ended up giving me a hug and a kiss on the lips. Yesterday he got sick and I went with him to the dr. The dr deemed it was stress induced and to stay home yesterday. It was a great day yesterday. We had a mini snowball fight, we laughed and joked around. I rented a Xbox game he has been wanting for awhile. We took a nap together and made dinner together. It was as if nothing happened. he even asked me if I thought counseling was a good idea. I told him lets just see how it goes and then go from there. The lady was nice. She is religious based counseling. I will admit my faith is lacking and I hope to become more religious. We are Christian. We believe that a relationship and a marriage are great things and all great things take time, effort, and communication. Today was rough but it was a first step. This was the first major fight we have had. The counselor asked if we have to get married in 22 days. We looked at each other and back at her and at the same time said yes, it's what we feel is right. So thank you for keeping us in your prayers. They are very appreciated and welcomed.
Quoting diamondgirl748:I'm glad you are seeking counseling, you are taking the first step and he is going with you. you will be in my prayer
It sounds like you know each other pretty well then and that's a very good thing. You both take care... Many Blessings :)
Quoting Kayla2013:
Steven and I have been together for 4 years and 3 months. During this time we have lost 4 babies, had a huge blow out with my family, huge blow out with his family. He dropped out of hs and then went back a year later and is the first to graduate with a hs diploma. He found a job and recently celebrated his 1year mark. We have been engaged for 2 years 4 months. We have hit most major road bumps a couple can hit but we have made it thru. We are complete opposites but we do attract. I bring things to the relationship he never experienced and he brings things I've never known of. Together we have a great start to a new family. I know it's stress that built up. I apologized over and over knowing I have issues I need help with and he has issues he needs help with. Thank you fr your advice. I will consider everything you said.
Quoting Tameez:Counseling is great. My daughter was in a very bad relationship and because of the abuse (physical/mental/verbal...) she just can't trust anyone. She has dated a few guys, no good guys and they didnt last. However she lost a good one. She broke up with him once because of her trust issues, he came back to her. She broke up with him a 2nd time because he lost his job and she didn't feel he was working hard enough at finding another (a past issue with the past bf) and she broke up with him and he didn't come back. She wanted me to be on her side but I told her the truth..... She wanted him to be the bad guy because he is dating someone else...WRONG!
She needs counseling for this...I can only do so much for her. She also lost a baby to the a-hole guy, she got preclampsia and delivered Catherine at 21 weeks gestation so she has that as well and honestly has never dealt with all of that completely.
Is this a big wedding? I worry about you marrying him right now with this just happening. I completely understand the stress and how you freaked out. I get that... I am just worried for you in the long run.
You both are definitely in my prayers. I am glad you are willing to fight for him, just make sure you are fighting for him for the right reasons and not just because you are just lonely (and I'm not saying that you are...just an example)... I only say this because I watch my 24 yo daughter going through this every day.
Many Blessings to you... I am so happy you are going to counseling, that is a HUGE big step.
Best of Luck and Love .......((BIG HUGS))
It will be such a beautiful day for your both.
Quoting Kayla2013:
The wedding is 150 people, roughly $5000. Cupcakes, catering fresh flowers. Informal but he is in a tux and I am in a simple wedding dress.
Quoting Tameez:Counseling is great. My daughter was in a very bad relationship and because of the abuse (physical/mental/verbal...) she just can't trust anyone. She has dated a few guys, no good guys and they didnt last. However she lost a good one. She broke up with him once because of her trust issues, he came back to her. She broke up with him a 2nd time because he lost his job and she didn't feel he was working hard enough at finding another (a past issue with the past bf) and she broke up with him and he didn't come back. She wanted me to be on her side but I told her the truth..... She wanted him to be the bad guy because he is dating someone else...WRONG!
She needs counseling for this...I can only do so much for her. She also lost a baby to the a-hole guy, she got preclampsia and delivered Catherine at 21 weeks gestation so she has that as well and honestly has never dealt with all of that completely.
Is this a big wedding? I worry about you marrying him right now with this just happening. I completely understand the stress and how you freaked out. I get that... I am just worried for you in the long run.
You both are definitely in my prayers. I am glad you are willing to fight for him, just make sure you are fighting for him for the right reasons and not just because you are just lonely (and I'm not saying that you are...just an example)... I only say this because I watch my 24 yo daughter going through this every day.
Many Blessings to you... I am so happy you are going to counseling, that is a HUGE big step.
Best of Luck and Love .......((BIG HUGS))
Stressful situations can do a lot of negative things to people. I have trust issues cuz as long as I can remember, my dad was a serial cheater but it took a long time before my mom cut him loose as she always felt that a family should stick together no matter what. About 4 yrs ago, I saw a txt on my dh's phone and it had a pic of a woman's cleavage and him saying how nice they were. He had his excuse and to this day I don't believe it so I live wondering what all he's done that I don't know of. So you're not alone in that dept! Hope things go well for you guys in counseling :)
Thank you, I hope counseling goes well for us too.
Quoting nai_ryoku:Stressful situations can do a lot of negative things to people. I have trust issues cuz as long as I can remember, my dad was a serial cheater but it took a long time before my mom cut him loose as she always felt that a family should stick together no matter what. About 4 yrs ago, I saw a txt on my dh's phone and it had a pic of a woman's cleavage and him saying how nice they were. He had his excuse and to this day I don't believe it so I live wondering what all he's done that I don't know of. So you're not alone in that dept! Hope things go well for you guys in counseling :)
Quoting marisab:sounds like u have dysrhtmia i have that uits weather induced depressiona nd all the stres su are under is agravating it.talk to ur dr about this asap.and bigg huggs!!!
*hugs*
I'm happy to hear that things are looking up for you as well as your relationship
I don't want my family to truly know who I am
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- Kayla2013
on Feb. 27, 2013 at 1:42 PM