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Grieving

Anonymous
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Dh and I have been ttc since December. Other months I was disappointed but whatever about it. This month I was a week and a half late and allowed myself to get my hopes up and believe that this might really be it only to get let down again.

most of the time I'm sad but okay but throughout the day ill start bawling randomly without warning. I feel like I'm grieving the loss of a pregnancy I never had. And then i feel stupid for getting so upset over it. Dh is trying his best to be supportive but he works and stays out of town 5-6 days a week so he won't be home until tomorrow night.

ive been ignoring everything I should be doing except taking care of my dd. I just don't give a damn about anything right now. I don't even want to keep ttc ing right now. I just want to crawl under the covers of my bed and cry until its better.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 25, 2013 at 9:48 PM
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jdy9440
by on Jul. 26, 2013 at 6:51 AM

I'm sorry you're going through that and hope it all works out for you. 

lancet98
by Bronze Member on Jul. 26, 2013 at 9:24 AM

You already have one child?

My gut reaction is that you shouldn't be getting this upset about this.   If you are crying uncontrollably and can't do your usual daily activities for a week or more, I would consider that to be very alarming and about much more than not conceiving.   See a counselor or psychiatrist(psychiatrist if your thoughts are turning to dark thoughts).

lyrick24
by Ruby Member on Jul. 26, 2013 at 9:45 AM

 im sorry things dont seem to be working out for you right now. i would try to relax and not focus so much on things right now. usually when you get your mind off of it that is when it happens. if youve been trying for a long time and it doesnt happen i would see a fertility specialist. it could be something very simple. good luck to you.

leahbeah143
by Leah on Jul. 26, 2013 at 10:13 AM

 *hugs*

gonecrazi
by Silver Member on Jul. 26, 2013 at 6:01 PM

 (((HUGS)))

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 26, 2013 at 6:28 PM


Quoting lancet98:

You already have one child?

My gut reaction is that you shouldn't be getting this upset about this.   If you are crying uncontrollably and can't do your usual daily activities for a week or more, I would consider that to be very alarming and about much more than not conceiving.   See a counselor or psychiatrist(psychiatrist if your thoughts are turning to dark thoughts).

I have 2 already, but I just got my period 3 days ago so it's still a fresh hurt. I felt a little better yesterday and got some stuff done but i think we might need to take a break from ttc because I can't keep putting myself through this every month.

rainbowmaker
by Member on Jul. 26, 2013 at 10:09 PM

My prayers are with you..my husband and I went through infertility for several years....however we now have 2 children, an adopted daughter, and a biological son.

Hang in there...things will get better....also, check out the group Resolve, Inc...they should have a website for local meetings.....it is a support group for people going through infertility.

nai_ryoku
by on Jul. 27, 2013 at 8:32 AM

If your emotions are getting out of control, I would say it's time to see someone about it.

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