I noticed a distraught woman at the train station this evening, she was crying like her heart was going to break. I went over to her to talk to her, got her to sit down, talk about what was bothering her, tried to advise her of a plan to keep herself safe and get herself out of a bad situation - caring about someone a woman should never care about. No, no immediate danger, the guy was in jail for hitting another woman. He had gone off with this other woman and left her, so she felt many things - jealousy, anger, and yet also very upset about what he'd done to this other gal.
But for a moment there I thought she was going to walk right in front of the 5:07 that comes barrelling through without stopping.
The thing was that I was at the far end of the station and she had to have walked past about a hundred people - not one of them went to her. She was in really bad shape too, just sobbing and then started wandering over to the tracks.
We talked for some time, and she got calmer, but at the end she said 'I want him dead'. I said don't throw away your life over someone who is so worthless. You need to pick up and make a new start without this user. And I recognize that she may go right back out and see this man and make all the same mistakes again, but at least she 'got the information', I gave her suggestions of what she could do to make that change. She'd be the one who has to actually make those changes. I explained how abusers twist women around their little finger and get them to believe in them, and how to recognize that and get away from it.
What would you do? Would you be uncomfortable reaching out to a stranger, or might you be suspicious that it was a fake and just an attempt to get some money? Would you have felt perhaps there was no good trying to get this woman to make a change in her life? Or would you have felt good about at least giving someone an opportunity to make a change, even if they couldn't do it at this time, perhaps they would later?
For me it's about opening a door for people, they may choose not to walk through it, but I can't control that. All I can do is what I can do - let them know how things are, they have to make the steps.
What would you have done and why?
No right or wrong answer, please just let everyone answer and say their idea in their own way without criticism.