My ex and I are in the process of trying to reconcile. The last time we got back together we took a brand new apartment, bought all new furniture. New start all new, he told me. Well it didn't last long, and last August he forced me to leave my beloved home.
December we started talking again. I refused to go to the apartment, knowing it would only hurt not seeing my things there etc. Well three months later I have been there a few times. To say I feel uncomfortable is an understatement. In addition I get angry seeing all the things I left behind as well as the changes that have been made since I left. (New Paint color, some new furniture since I took some it and my kitchen rearranged).
I tell myself it's just an apartment, but that doesn't seem to help. In addition, my ex says he understands that I feel uncortable, but I don't think he really gets it. So the question I pose is how do I get over feeling so uncomtable there, (If we do reconcile, that would be "home" again). And two, how do I get him to understand and help me through these feelings??