DH doesn't understand my social phobia
Today we were at a party with his work friends. I was uncomfortable the whole time, but put up with it because he and my girls were having fun -- but I was miserable. No one talked to me so I just stood there like a fool imagining what these people must think of me. I tried to busy myself with my kids, but they were busy doing other things and DH was busy mingling or whatever.
Anyway, I guess DH assumed I was grumpy because he was drinking (so I couldn't) and offered to stop drinking if I would like to have something to drink. I said "thank you" assuming that was it (he tends to get a bit hostile when he's drinking (and, given the fact that he started at noon, I was thanking my lucky stars that he offered to quit at 4:00). Turns out, he only agreed to stop IF I would drink, and since he never saw me go for any booze, he kept on going.
On the way out, he asked if I would drive and I asked if he's been drinking. He said "of course. Why wouldn't I" and I guess I must have looked irritated because that's when all hell broke loose.
On the way home, he was yelling at me for moaping around "trying to bring (him) down and that if I would just "get over it" I might actually have fun. I tried so hard to explain what was going on there (as I have done multiple times in the past), but he insists that I'm just trying to kill his fun and he "knows I just want (him) to stay home all of the time".
I feel hurt and lost. I know a lot of this was because he had been drinking (which is why I asked him to stop) but he doesn't see that. He just thinks I'm trying to control him.
What should I do?