Sorry for posting so much, having problems with husband
I've been married to my husband for over 12 yrs now, together for about 16, we have two children, 8 and 13. I know this might sound a bit crazy but his addictions are tearing us apart. He's not addicted to drugs or alcohol just video games and other things. I feel like it's not getting any better just worse. I don't want to come in second to a video game or other electronics like tablets and iphones. Even when he takes a break from the games, he is constantly checking his phone and his tablet, while we are supposed to be spending time together watching tv or a movie. We also never really talk, at least not on a deep, meaningful level. I feel like I have to constantly fight for his attention, this is not what I signed up for. I've tried talking to him about it and he just throws it back in my face, "Well, would you rather I go to bars and drink? There's not much I can do that doesn't cost money." Recently, he's gotten obsessed with a game called Ingress, it's basically a video game that you drive around town with and hack portals and earn points for finding places against another team. That would be fine with me if he wanted to go out one or two nights a week for a couple of hours and play, but he takes it to the extreme, he's now frequently out until 3 or 4 am. I understand how money is tight but we rarely do things together and I rarely get to choose where we go to eat or what movie we see. I don't know how much longer I can stay in this relationship, he's never wrong about anything, I'm always the problem, I'm the one over-reacting even when I don't think I am, none of my feelings are valid, what I say has no importance, I frequently hear, "Don't be dumb." or he'll get impatient when I ask a question he's already answered( I have short term memory issues bc of meds and ect). Problem is, when we've talked about divorce, he gets angry and tells me to go sign the papers and move out. Why should I move out when my SSDI money pays for half our mortgage? He also says he's taking the kids bc "I'm not stable." I really want to work things out bc I do love him, but he's not flexible at all or even willing to meet me halfway. Help, please? Has anyone been in a similar situation?