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I'm a depressed alcoholic and nobody cares

Anonymous
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My mom pretends to be there for me but she truly isn't.  She knows whenever she's not at my house I drink.  I know that isn't her fault but she knows I need the support.  She just walks away and pretends everything is ok.  If it were one of my kids I would be doing everything under the sun to make sure they are ok, but all she cares about is her fake friends and her going the casino.  What to do? 

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2015 at 2:58 AM
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blinx
by Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 3:14 AM
First off, how old are you and your kids? Second, it's up to YOU as an adult, to seek help. What is supposed to do? Wrestle the alcohol away from you?

My father DIED last year due to his drinking. He left me KNOWING I still needed him. He blamed everyone else for his drinking problem but knew dam well it was his own choice. I'm a bit sore when it comes to this.

Get help. You want to stop drinking? Go to rehab. Depressed? Rehab will help with that too. But your mom raised you. Her OBLIGATION has been filled. You need to take care of your self.
mrsary
by Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 3:15 AM
Yep! I am a recovering alcoholic right now. Early in recovery. I felt I was given up on too. In fact it seems like people wanted me to ruin my life instead of be successful.
mrsary
by Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 3:19 AM
True. I do think alcohol adds to depression. Plus sobriety feels so good!

Quoting blinx: First off, how old are you and your kids? Second, it's up to YOU as an adult, to seek help. What is supposed to do? Wrestle the alcohol away from you?

My father DIED last year due to his drinking. He left me KNOWING I still needed him. He blamed everyone else for his drinking problem but knew dam well it was his own choice. I'm a bit sore when it comes to this.

Get help. You want to stop drinking? Go to rehab. Depressed? Rehab will help with that too. But your mom raised you. Her OBLIGATION has been filled. You need to take care of your self.
matreshka
by on Jan. 14, 2015 at 6:04 AM
I come from a family of alcoholics. A few have died from alcoholism and the related things that happen to your body directly related to alcohol abuse.

It is your responsibility to seek help or at least tell someone you have a problem, either with alcohol depression or both. They're related. Go to an as meeting or seek out a therapist. Both can help you.
lyrick24
by Group Admin on Jan. 14, 2015 at 8:18 AM
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 it is not your moms responsibility to babysit you. go get help for yourself. then maybe she will start to help you if she sees you want to help yourself.

Minimonsters
by Bronze Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 8:21 AM
You mum maybe just trying to protect herself it's very hard to see someone you love with an addiction and as a family member there is nothing you can do to make an alcoholic get help. Have you tried going to AA, they are hugely supportive, they helped me when I was drinking heavily, really helped me clean myself up. Your mum might find al-anon meetings useful too which support people who are affected by someone else's drinking, I went to these when I was younger because I wasn't coping with my dad's alcoholism it helped me form a better relationship with him. Whatever is going on in your life alcohol really won't make it better (believe me I've tried it!) it's a tough journey but I hope you can find the support you need. Here to chat anytime x
Memere60
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 8:41 AM

I had an uncle who fell asleep while he was drinking and smoking. I guess he dropped the cigarette, set the house on fire, and was burned to death. I don't know why he drank, but I guess he was in a lot of pain. I know this would take a lot of work, but it would be worth going to AA if you could get your life back together.

i'm sure your mom loves you very much, but she probably feels helpless, because this is a very overwhelming problem.

i can't imagine seeing my daughter in the kind of pain you're in........

MissMackiesgg
by on Jan. 14, 2015 at 9:52 AM

I can't help any one but me with the drinking be it mine or some one elses. Reach out for help.

leahbeah143
by Leah on Jan. 14, 2015 at 12:05 PM

*hugs*

Have you been to AA? Your mom probably doesn't know what to do to help you

Serenity7
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2015 at 2:11 PM

 ((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))

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