
Hey I hear ya. Been there done that. Give me a PM if you would like. There is also a website. http://www.dailystrength.org/
Learning to trust again is hard. It will take time and you need to be very careful. Any man you think about dating, ask yourself, 'Is this a guy I'd like around my kids?'.

what good is truth...when there's no justice

After my last marriage broke up, I went into counseling to figure out why I married such losers and jerks. Three of my husbands were abusive. The counseling helped me figure out why I dated the men I did and helped me break the pattern. I'm now married (almost 20 years) to a wonderful man who would never harm me (physically or psychologically). Don't look for someone new until you go through enough counseling so you can meet a nice man. At the end of my counseling (2+ years) I felt well enough to live by myself instead of jumping into another bad relationship. I dated my present husband for 2 years before we got married. We had known each other for about 8 years before we dated.
Please do not look for anyone until you've done the counseling you need.

Read about personality types.
There were signs early in both of your relationships. That you either did not see at the tiem. Or refused to see them.
Write a list of those early signs in both men. Small incidents.
Take your time. There is no big hurry to find someone. When you are not looking you will find someone.
- luvmia
on Jan. 31, 2015 at 7:49 PM