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Do you get this way?

Posted by on Oct. 8, 2015 at 3:38 PM
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I'm living with my Niece, who now has decided to be a bully, she was on a rant yesterday. Not going to post all of what happened again, I already did in the group Christian Mothers Unite. But basically her and her husband thinks it's my job to clean up after their kids, ages, 16,12,11. So now they claim I do not clean the house, they work during the day that's when I clean not AFTER THEY GET HOME AT NIGHT. Anyway, Along with living with my niece at my age, I have been battling depression and was doing well except for the last year, I have notice it spiraling out. But Now, I feel as if someone knocked me over the head and all I want to do is sleep. I'm not at the house, I don't like confrontation and why try to speak with people where they are always right and everyone is always wrong. So I'm in my car.
Do you get this feeling of getting tired which seems to have come out of the clear blue skies?
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happyolechimp
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 3:58 PM
sounds like you're Cinderella...in rags to clean up for everybody else.
Too bad that fairy godmother is late.
it's horrible to not be appreciated and dumped on.
Tink61
by Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 5:10 PM
Lack of respect on her part the way she speaks to me. Not for anything, she quickly forgot what a great person Aunt Terri was, when I was helping her financially and had no business in doing so. I always gave gave gave, with no regards to my own well being. Not looking for anything in return. Just show a little respect. I would never ever expect an Aunt of mine with disabilities to clean, especially after the kids. It got to me, maybe I'm doing something that I'm not aware of to be treated this way.
lucy164
by Peggy on Oct. 8, 2015 at 5:17 PM

Was your niece always like this?  If not, maybe she is going through something bad right not.  But there is no reason for her to be disrepectful to your aunt. 

Tink61
by Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 5:23 PM
She has been this way for the longest time. She yells constantly at the kids, I remember when she had her Son, she had her Mother, My Sister escorted out of her room by the police. She also has OCD, which makes it difficult to help her because she blows up cause you didn't do something the right way and she refuses to go for help. That Aunt is me. So right now I'm sitting in my car in a parking lot, because I don't want to go back and be accused of not doing something. According to her I also don't try to get help for myself.
zboys
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 7:55 PM

Yes, I can relate to the tiredness.  If something makes me really sad, I tend to get tired and want the day to be over with quicker so I can retire in bed and start refreshed the next day.

lovegrandbaby
by Bronze Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 8:20 PM

I totally understand being tired.  I have been like that for a looongg time.  I keep getting more reasons and illnesses that cause it, but keep pushing along.  Along with depression, it doesn't help.  I could sleep all day if I had the time.

MissMackiesgg
by on Oct. 10, 2015 at 2:46 PM

Do you get disability? If not apply, just know that SS will try to deny you forever so that you will give up! Appeal, appeal, appeal. If you get that maybe you can get out on your own. Try section 8 for help with rent, Job and Family for what they can help you with. They know of all places that offer help. Maybe being on your own will help with the depression that your niece has helped along.

Tink61
by Member on Oct. 10, 2015 at 3:06 PM
My luck, Here in Bergen County NJ section 8 was cut off years ago. I went to the housing Authority and they said they haven't taken anymore applicants since 05 said they are yrs behind. I have a confession to make, all though I went to A Dr for my legs and she did a muscle test in both legs, she told me I have muscle weakness in multiple muscles in each leg, Said she has never seen anyone like this before and suggested that maybe it's genetic. And referred me to see a Nuerologisr, when I saw the paper for the Dr she said check for Muscular Dystrophy. When I seen that. I started shaking, now I'm afraid to go. I know that isn't helping me but it's a real fear. So I don't know if I can get disability without going to a Nuero.
I'm afraid to go back to her house because I don't like confrontations, I can't talk to her, I tried to tell her I clean, but because she doesn't see me ... It's a lie. She still isn't taking to me. I'm tired of hearing I'm self centered, a baby and lazy,oh and let's not forget about a liar. I'm 54 and to be treated in this manner hurts. I wrote her a note and siaid I was sorry for any trouble I caused and she said your such a baby. And don't want to help yourself. All I do is cry and cry. I go to a local Walmart and sit in my car for hours, try to sleep. And generally leave Walmart at 11pm then head back, hoping I don't run into them.


Quoting MissMackiesgg:

Do you get disability? If not apply, just know that SS will try to deny you forever so that you will give up! Appeal, appeal, appeal. If you get that maybe you can get out on your own. Try section 8 for help with rent, Job and Family for what they can help you with. They know of all places that offer help. Maybe being on your own will help with the depression that your niece has helped along.

lovingmommywife
by on Oct. 10, 2015 at 3:17 PM
I'm always tired, to the point where I feel like I don't sleep at night. I also flip out about anything on everyone. Also sad I think i'm a nut. But your niece should not treat you like this. Sorry.
MissMackiesgg
by on Oct. 10, 2015 at 3:23 PM

Go and do the test. When the drs gives you any news leave her a copy!!!!

Quoting Tink61: My luck, Here in Bergen County NJ section 8 was cut off years ago. I went to the housing Authority and they said they haven't taken anymore applicants since 05 said they are yrs behind. I have a confession to make, all though I went to A Dr for my legs and she did a muscle test in both legs, she told me I have muscle weakness in multiple muscles in each leg, Said she has never seen anyone like this before and suggested that maybe it's genetic. And referred me to see a Nuerologisr, when I saw the paper for the Dr she said check for Muscular Dystrophy. When I seen that. I started shaking, now I'm afraid to go. I know that isn't helping me but it's a real fear. So I don't know if I can get disability without going to a Nuero. I'm afraid to go back to her house because I don't like confrontations, I can't talk to her, I tried to tell her I clean, but because she doesn't see me ... It's a lie. She still isn't taking to me. I'm tired of hearing I'm self centered, a baby and lazy,oh and let's not forget about a liar. I'm 54 and to be treated in this manner hurts. I wrote her a note and siaid I was sorry for any trouble I caused and she said your such a baby. And don't want to help yourself. All I do is cry and cry. I go to a local Walmart and sit in my car for hours, try to sleep. And generally leave Walmart at 11pm then head back, hoping I don't run into them.
Quoting MissMackiesgg:

Do you get disability? If not apply, just know that SS will try to deny you forever so that you will give up! Appeal, appeal, appeal. If you get that maybe you can get out on your own. Try section 8 for help with rent, Job and Family for what they can help you with. They know of all places that offer help. Maybe being on your own will help with the depression that your niece has helped along.


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