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Don't forget the Feng Shui

Posted by on May. 11, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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GOOD FENG SHUI IMPROVES SEL-ESTEEM AND CREATES GOOD MENTAL HEALTH HABITS

by ANA on JULY 21, 2011

 

A few times I have come across some people that, although they present themselves well, their home is in a state of war: dirty dishes piled up in the kitchen, rubbish hasn’t been thrown out in days, every room is not only cluttered but messy beyond belief. And some of those were well-off families and not teens!

I believe we would all agree that self-neglect is not a positive thing. Most people I know make an effort to tidy their hair when they leave the house, or to simply wear clean clothes to work. But sometimes we only understand someone suffers from deep self-neglect when we walk into their home.

From the psychological point of view walking into a home that looks like a war zone it’s like sliding straight into someone’s subconscious mind: the self neglect, lack of discipline, lack of self-esteem, and lack of gratitude are yelling out on your face. So it’s quite distressing and I need a lot of compassion to deal with clients like that.

One of the things I am most passionate about in life is to bring awareness to everyone about a very simple, yet powerful fact: our homes represent ourselves. The same way a very messy and dirty home reinforces someone’s low self-esteem, having a negative effect in their health also, a home that is well looked after, de-cluttered and tidy will have a positive effect on their physical and mental wellbeing.

For a disempowered person, having a home that looks and feels good may appear an impossible task at first. However taking care of one’s home can be learned and will slowly help people with low-self esteem, or even depression, to start feeling more positive about themselves and the world around them. It will also help to unblock their creativity, so they can find easy solutions for what appeared to be a difficult task before, and they will feel more vibrant as the life force in their bodies will start to flow again as well.

I have had clients that six months after starting to take good care of their small flat, improved their relationship, lost weight, and started feeling more vibrant about life. So much so, that their landlord asked the flat back and they ended up moving from a mouldy, dark and below-the-street apartment to a water front, full-ocean-view one, that they could have never dreamed of affording before their consultation.

Feng Shui is a very simple and yet profound way of bringing lasting positive changes into people’s lives. And that’s what I love about it!

  

by on May. 11, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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e-doolittle
by Kelly on May. 11, 2012 at 10:54 PM

Thanks!

reneawesley
by on May. 12, 2012 at 12:34 AM

 I don't really agree with this. I don't think having a messy house represents self neglect or lack of self esteem. My house is lived in and is not a show place.

mp3mom
by on May. 12, 2012 at 9:49 AM

It's not easy with 3 kids... I AT LEAST have the main floor spotless and clutter-free. We work on the others. But it's nice to walk into a clean home, per se'. The living room, family room, dining room, and kitchen... clean, always. Unexpected guests? No problem. Do the kids like that I make them pick up? Ha, ha. Too bad. Can you believe I've actually been criticized by my sisters-in-law about it? "It doesn't look like you have kids!" Yay! They're things are accessible. Just open the pantry, or storage cabinet, or wicker table that opens, or storage ottomans. Their books are on the bookcase... Toys? In the basement, in containers; I'm sorry they're not strewn about the floor. I mean, be for real. You put it away after you play with it. Their rooms... like I said, it's a work in progress. After all, they need to be responsible for their things. Let's face it, I don't know where everyone's "whatever" is... They HAVE to know where they put it.

mypbandj
by Jen on May. 12, 2012 at 11:06 AM

For me, it is stressful to walk into a house that is messy. I'd much rather walk into a neat, clean home. (Not that it is that way, I mean, I work and dh works and we have three kids!)

darbyakeep45
by Darby on May. 12, 2012 at 9:18 PM

I personally think we all make time for the things that are important to us...I make time to clean my house and very frequently...that's just something that's important to ME.  It might not be as big of a deal to others and there's nothing wrong with that all!  I don't think the way someone's house looks reflects their self esteem or anything like that at all!  We all do what we have time for and we do what makes us happy.  A clean and clutter free house makes me VERY happy!

shadenn766
by on May. 12, 2012 at 9:25 PM

 i agree

Krysden
by Platinum Member on May. 13, 2012 at 8:46 AM

yep

cleanaturalady
by on May. 13, 2012 at 5:23 PM


Quoting reneawesley:

 I don't really agree with this. I don't think having a messy house represents self neglect or lack of self esteem. My house is lived in and is not a show place.

I think the author was speaking in extremes.  Everyone lives in their home, but if it starts to look like Hoarders, there is definitely something wrong psychologically.  There is a whole lot of variables in between spotless and hoarder condition.  I think in some cases, it can be a sign of self neglect, speaking personally, I get depressed and I don't feel like cleaning, so that makes me feel worse.  I feel much better when I get the dishes done and pick up a little around the house every day.  

  

SabrinaLC
by on May. 14, 2012 at 7:09 AM

Yet another great post!

Thank you for sharing!

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