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Healthy Eating Habits Start Early

Do you ever feel like just slapping a mother for what she is feeding her family, well the thought crossed my mind on Saturday morning.  My family was taking an early morning ferry ride from Seattle, WA to Bremerton, WA, the ride takes about 1 hour.  We got the first boat at 6:00 am.

OK, I have to admit, we were in a rush, and we got Egg McMuffins for breakfast, which is something I almost never have.  I cannot even remember the last time I had one before then.  We almost always have a healthy breakfast.

There was a mother on the boat with about 5 kids.  She was rather heavy, but the kids were average size probably ranging in age from 5 to 15.  Their breakfast consisted of Cheetos and Orange Crush.  And here I am feeling guilty about the Egg McMuffins.  I felt like saying something, as the boat was pretty empty, but I held myself.  I did not want my daughter to see what they were having for breakfast, as I would not want her to get any ideas.

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by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 11:58 AM
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fullxbusymom
by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 11:34 AM
Well it wasn't my house and it isn't like it happens often it was their sons b-day the day before hence the sleepover. The whole 24hrs was a wash for healthy eating that day.

Quoting FlyingMommy747:



Quoting fullxbusymom:

Well in a crunch you do what you have to do. My son had a sleepover a friends house this past weekend when I asked what they had for breakfast I was told cake. UGH!! I would never but not my business or my place to judge anyone else for what they do w/their own children especially without knowing the circumstances.



Quoting FlyingMommy747:




Quoting darbyakeep45:

Um, no I don't judge others for what they feed their children...not my place.  And I honestly don't care what others feed their children.  I care about what I feed my child and my child only.

If a stranger came up and said something to me about what I fed my child, I would probably slap him or her myself!  Not your place and none of your business!  Your daughter will see ALL kinds of things in her life and you can't shelter her from that.  Who cares if she sees another child eating junk food for breakfast?  She might ask you for it, but all you have to do is say no to her, as you're the parent and the one in charge anyway.  

Not trying to be rude, but why not mind your own business and leave others alone?  Who cares what she feeds her kids?  

If you read my post, I did not say anything to her, and I did mind my own business.  I kinda felt sorry for the kids not being taught what they should be eating, and I did not want my daughter to think because she saw others do it, that it was ok for her to eat Cheetos and Orange Crush for breakfast, or any time.

In your situation, I probably would have said something, I would not be happy if someone fed my DD cake for breakfast.  I let a friend of mine babysit for my daughter once, and it was right after her birthday so she brought cupcakes.  I am not sure how many my DD had, but she was throwing up all night.  As parents it is our responsibility to look out for our kids.

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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Nov. 28, 2012 at 11:40 AM
I read your post. My point is why are you spending time worrying, concerning yourself, and posting about other people and how they feed their kids? You are indeed minding their business if you are gossiping about them and posting crap on CM about them. My point is why not concern yourself with your own kids and not worry about others? I don't have time for that nor do I care about how others raise their own kids.

Quoting FlyingMommy747:



Quoting darbyakeep45:

Um, no I don't judge others for what they feed their children...not my place.  And I honestly don't care what others feed their children.  I care about what I feed my child and my child only.

If a stranger came up and said something to me about what I fed my child, I would probably slap him or her myself!  Not your place and none of your business!  Your daughter will see ALL kinds of things in her life and you can't shelter her from that.  Who cares if she sees another child eating junk food for breakfast?  She might ask you for it, but all you have to do is say no to her, as you're the parent and the one in charge anyway.  

Not trying to be rude, but why not mind your own business and leave others alone?  Who cares what she feeds her kids?  

If you read my post, I did not say anything to her, and I did mind my own business.  I kinda felt sorry for the kids not being taught what they should be eating, and I did not want my daughter to think because she saw others do it, that it was ok for her to eat Cheetos and Orange Crush for breakfast, or any time.

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Krysden
by Platinum Member on Nov. 28, 2012 at 12:15 PM

Was it the Cheetos & orange crush AT ALL that got to you or was it the fact that they were having it so early in the day?

Schleetle
by on Nov. 28, 2012 at 12:38 PM
Both breakfasts are unhealthy. I'd mind my business, and just do what I felt was best for my kids. My kids normally eat healthy, but sometimes when we are on the go I grab something I typically wouldn't. Also to be extra witchy here I wouldn't get them McDonalds (or soda) unless there was absolutely no other choice which I doubt would be the case.
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FlyingMommy747
by Member on Nov. 28, 2012 at 1:02 PM


Quoting Schleetle:

Both breakfasts are unhealthy. I'd mind my business, and just do what I felt was best for my kids. My kids normally eat healthy, but sometimes when we are on the go I grab something I typically wouldn't. Also to be extra witchy here I wouldn't get them McDonalds (or soda) unless there was absolutely no other choice which I doubt would be the case.

We left our house at 5:00 am, so there really was no other choice.  As I said, we had to go get a pet carrier the evening before or we would not have been able to get our puppy.  I had been searching for a Collie puppy since July when one of my dogs passed away, and then our second dog passed away the week before.  I guess that is the disadvantage of getting dogs as puppies close together, they also left us close together as senior dogs and with the opportunity we were not about to miss out.  Our DD had beet totally distraught since loosing both of her doggies, and it was worth the one time of going to McDonalds to hear her giggle again.  Believe me it was not my first choice, and the Galley on the ferry was closed, so it was that or starve.

We did pack a lunch, but did not have time to boil any hard boiled eggs for breakfast to bring with us.  Yoguart would have been good, but we were out.  To be honest, I just ate the egg and ham out of the McMuffin.  So there was a little nutritional value, but I honestly do not see any nutritional value in Cheetoes, and it was a big bag, not out of the vending machine, so she brought it with her, so I guess it was somewhat planned.

Alyson121
by Alyson on Nov. 28, 2012 at 5:50 PM

Girl . . .Whole  Foods is the worst.  LOL! Since our family is big and we usually have like  3 shopping carts full of food, people always find their way over to us and strike up conversations - and it always centers around food. 

I do understand why people buy the items they buy though. I realize most people don't have the time to cook foods  from fresh. Plus allot of people never really learned to cook, so they do the  best they can.

Quoting musicpisces:

Ahahahahahahahahahahahaha! This is so me! I'm like, really, organic cookies are still cookies.
I admit, I would make snap judgments if I saw that (WHEN I see things like that). I know we rarely know the whole story, we don't know if that was a treat, all the mom could scrape together for whatever reason, etc. I try not to judge, because here I am on my iPhone with a Saks purse using my food stamps. But my iPhone we got with a free gift card, and my purse is from Goodwill. I've learned not to judge too much, but I admit I do still judge some.
It's hard working in the hospital during clinicals (in nursing school), too, because I see all kinds of poor decisions, and part of me wants to step in all the dang time! In some situations, it IS my place, but in others, it is very much NOT. In L&D, where I am now (where my heart lies), I have very strong opinions about a lot of things related to pain management, circumcision, interventions, etc, and I have to work hard to put those aside and let each family/person do things their own way, and support them in that.


Quoting Alyson121:

I'm a bit of a food snob myself.  I *side eye* people for things in their cart at Whole Foods, for crying out loud. Hubby is actually worse than me AND he always has conversations with people about food but they seem to enjoy it.  LOL

Quoting SabrinaLC:

I'm a food snob, I have no issue admitting to that.  When I see people feeding theirselves and their children anything other than what I would feed my family I judge.  Am I going to say something to them? No!  It's not my place to tell her how to feed herself and her family.

Not everyone is as educated when it comes to nutrition.   I'll continue to feed my children the way I see fit and leave everyone else alone.  If they want help or suggestions I'm sure they'll go looking for it.



musicpisces
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:06 AM
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I don't HAVE the time, I MAKE the time, but I also grew up in a house where that was always the case, so that's important to me.  That's not the case for everyone, for sure.

Quoting Alyson121:

Girl . . .Whole  Foods is the worst.  LOL! Since our family is big and we usually have like  3 shopping carts full of food, people always find their way over to us and strike up conversations - and it always centers around food. 

I do understand why people buy the items they buy though. I realize most people don't have the time to cook foods  from fresh. Plus allot of people never really learned to cook, so they do the  best they can.

Quoting musicpisces:

Ahahahahahahahahahahahaha! This is so me! I'm like, really, organic cookies are still cookies.
I admit, I would make snap judgments if I saw that (WHEN I see things like that). I know we rarely know the whole story, we don't know if that was a treat, all the mom could scrape together for whatever reason, etc. I try not to judge, because here I am on my iPhone with a Saks purse using my food stamps. But my iPhone we got with a free gift card, and my purse is from Goodwill. I've learned not to judge too much, but I admit I do still judge some.
It's hard working in the hospital during clinicals (in nursing school), too, because I see all kinds of poor decisions, and part of me wants to step in all the dang time! In some situations, it IS my place, but in others, it is very much NOT. In L&D, where I am now (where my heart lies), I have very strong opinions about a lot of things related to pain management, circumcision, interventions, etc, and I have to work hard to put those aside and let each family/person do things their own way, and support them in that.


Quoting Alyson121:

I'm a bit of a food snob myself.  I *side eye* people for things in their cart at Whole Foods, for crying out loud. Hubby is actually worse than me AND he always has conversations with people about food but they seem to enjoy it.  LOL

Quoting SabrinaLC:

I'm a food snob, I have no issue admitting to that.  When I see people feeding theirselves and their children anything other than what I would feed my family I judge.  Am I going to say something to them? No!  It's not my place to tell her how to feed herself and her family.

Not everyone is as educated when it comes to nutrition.   I'll continue to feed my children the way I see fit and leave everyone else alone.  If they want help or suggestions I'm sure they'll go looking for it.




Suzanne

"Don't sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now."

LindaClement
by Gold Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:35 AM

Best one I ever saw was a woman pouring cream soda into a bottle for a 3mo (whose fingers were already orange from the Cheezies) ... on the grounds that 'she'd feel left out.'

Wow ... can you spell 'transference'?

EthansMomma2010
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:43 AM
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I wonder about this too. I admit I give my kiddo 3 oz of juice every morning. It was how we broke his love of milk. And now he wont give up the juice. But during the day. No way unless its a treat. There is this giant toddler who is in Ethan's pm daycare and his mom is always prying away the juice as he walks in. The teacher said Ethan is the only one who loves water and drinks the whole cup. So sad.

Quoting mp3mom:

I know. I felt the same whenever I saw kids drinking juice; why not water?

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LindaClement
by Gold Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:51 AM

Regarding the 'time' issue:

Two things. First, I'm often astonished how much time and effort goes into the crap --if you buy, say, 2 hard-cooked eggs at the deli counter. They're like $2 here. Now, I can buy a dozen eggs, hardboil every one of them in 17 minutes, for $2 plus the heat and water involved, call it another 9 cents. That's for 12, which will last in the fridge the better part of three weeks... should anyone allow them to stay there so long.

For 12, the $2/pr ones are $6. For a LOT of people, that's a significant portion of an hour's work (after taxes and deductions...) to avoid having to spend 12 seconds poking holes in the ends, another half minute filling a pot and turning on the stove... then after you've had a nap or read a magazine or had a couple of shots, you have to turn down the heat... after you have a quickie or alphabetize your socks or whatever, you have to remove the pan from the heat and let cold water pour over it until they're cool.

Man. The struggle. And the cost: 34 cents for 2! How can we endure it?!?

What would you rather do: more than half an hour of work at work so you can buy some more 'convenience', or spend 2.4 minutes 'doing' something in between commercial breaks? (People very rarely think of how much work they have to do to 'save' themselves 15 minutes effort...)

Second: it's OFTEN not actually faster. I can make pizza in less time than it takes to get Dominoes to my door --not including the time it takes to place the order.

I can make stir-fry for 6 adults in under half an hour --usually, three different dishes. In 45 minutes, it can include steamed brown rice.

I have multiple pasta dishes that I can make in the time it takes the pasta to cook ... some, not even including the time it takes the water to come to a boil first.

In the time it takes to wait in the drive thru, order, pay and receive the order, I'm already sitting down eating my curried quinoa pilaf, salmon fillets and fresh tossed salad with homemade dressing. Even if I have to go through the horrors of actually having to wash the lettuce myself.

It takes shopping well: buying things that cook fast (even knowing what they are!)... it's somewhat knowing your way around your own kitchen (I don't have to think which drawer anything is in, nor do I ever have to hunt for any ingredient or tool) ... and it's somewhat a willingness to try substitutions or creative additions when you don't have all of what the recipe calls for.

I also have the tools that make a lot of it faster: a pressure cooker (well...3 actually) which makes the really cheap foods super-fast to prepare (baked beans in 40 minutes? Yes, I can do that.) Good, sharp knives. Plenty of cutting boards and measuring spoons (so I never have to stop to wash anything when I'm in a hurry.)

I agree, people do the 'best they can'... it's just that their standards aren't very high, and they lack any eagerness to get any better at it.

Quoting Alyson121:

I do understand why people buy the items they buy though. I realize most people don't have the time to cook foods  from fresh. Plus allot of people never really learned to cook, so they do the  best they can. 

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