Wills: Have you appointed a guardian?

[TonyaLea]

Have you appointed a guardian for your children in a will?  How did you choose who should be their guardian if anything should happen to you?

If you don't have a will, do you know who you would like to name?  Do they and your family know of your choice?

[Alejandra10]

my parents n because i trust them

[TonyaLea]

Quoting Alejandra10:

my parents n because i trust them

Do you have a legal will that names them as guardians? 

[mommy3sss]

I don't have a will but if both me and S0 dies I would like my mom to have them since she has basically helped me raise them (I need to get a will just in case my in-laws try to get them, they don't even take care of the kids the have

[TonyaLea]

Quoting mommy3sss:

I don't have a will but if both me and S0 dies I would like my mom to have them since she has basically helped me raise them (I need to get a will just in case my in-laws try to get them, they don't even take care of the kids the have

I am in the "I need to get a will so my inlaws don't try to get her" boat too.  I have been contemplating it for a while, but the problem is we can't decide on a guardian.  The best choice would by my parents, but i would feel bad because that would mean they would retire just to end up raising another child and not get to enjoy their freedom.  My mom also has recurring brain tumors, so....that could end up bad.  

[aydensmommy0406]

 I dont have a will at this moment but my whole family knows that my son will go to my mother if something happens to me. I really need to decide on who I will have take him if she cannot.  I know someone in my family will step up and take care of him. We are a close knit family so I know he will be taken care of.

[lauratupper]

i don't have a will yet, but if something were to happen to me ds would go to his dad's sister and her husband. they are also ds's god parents.

[TonyaLea]

Quoting aydensmommy0406:

 I dont have a will at this moment but my whole family knows that my son will go to my mother if something happens to me. I really need to decide on who I will have take him if she cannot.  I know someone in my family will step up and take care of him. We are a close knit family so I know he will be taken care of.

My family is very close too, even my in-laws, but the inlaws are not a good choice for a family to raise her.

[HaileysMom07180]

Yes and my mom is not happy about it at all.  We picked our friends who share a similar religious belief as us and we know will care for her as her own.  My mom said I should have chosen her because she has a lot of money.  Yes she does have money, however, she was extremely abusive to me when I was a kid and doesn't hold the kind of values that we do.  We are trying to teach my dd healthy eating habits and only to purchase things brand new when its absolutely necessary (and thats after we have tried fixing the old things or checked thrift stores or garage sales) and yes I'm aware that there are some things we cant avoid.  My point is my mom eats every single meal out at restaurants and is constantly trying to convince me to buy her things she doesn't need because it would be fun.  I'd much rather have someone care for her that is carries the same values and understands the concepts of our religion so they can answer her questions properly.  Yes I am aware that most people keep it in the family, but there aren't much options in my family.

[TonyaLea]

Quoting lauratupper:

i don't have a will yet, but if something were to happen to me ds would go to his dad's sister and her husband. they are also ds's god parents.

My husbands brother would also be a good choice, but he is still too young (just turned 20), still unmarried,  and not yet stable enough in his new career to consider as a guardian yet.  

[TonyaLea]

Quoting HaileysMom07180:

Yes and my mom is not happy about it at all.  We picked our friends who share a similar religious belief as us and we know will care for her as her own.  My mom said I should have chosen her because she has a lot of money.  Yes she does have money, however, she was extremely abusive to me when I was a kid and doesn't hold the kind of values that we do.  We are trying to teach my dd healthy eating habits and only to purchase things brand new when its absolutely necessary (and thats after we have tried fixing the old things or checked thrift stores or garage sales) and yes I'm aware that there are some things we cant avoid.  My point is my mom eats every single meal out at restaurants and is constantly trying to convince me to buy her things she doesn't need because it would be fun.  I'd much rather have someone care for her that is carries the same values and understands the concepts of our religion so they can answer her questions properly.  Yes I am aware that most people keep it in the family, but there aren't much options in my family.

I understand that completely, I am the guardian of a friend's children, her parents do not know, but if they ever find out they will not be happy.  She loves her parents and wants them to continue to be a part of their lives, but she doesn't want them raising her children.