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Piercing predicament

Help! My baby wants to mutilate her … ears!

OK, I guess piercing really isn’t mutilation, so to speak. However in my mind, it is not that far off track.

A little background here: At 16 (she will turn 17 in January, as I am often reminded), Grace is not a baby. But in my mind she is and you will never convince me otherwise. Recently she started her own relentless campaign to get a piercing in her ear cartilage. When I say relentless, I mean her techniques put those whiny politicians to shame.

I will admit that she is clever in her methods.

First, she knew I would be the tough one so she got her mother onboard first. Then the begging, pleading and even texting started. “Daddy, please! All my friends have it done.” I gave her the canned, “they are not my daughters” response.

You see, about six or seven years ago she got regular piercings in her earlobes.

I wasn’t crazy about the idea but I gave in. I went with her and my wife to the “disfigurement center” and I was a nervous wreck.

I understood that they would do both ears at the same time, I made sure she knew it was going to hurt a bit and I held on to her hands the whole time. When I heard the sickening double click I could barely make out her expression from behind my semi-flooded eyes. She flinched a bit but was fine. On the other hand, I needed a drink.

Now that I have finally gotten over that traumatic event, they want to put me through it again. I told her I don’t care for it and I don’t think it looks classy (my opinion and therefore it should stand for my family!). She hasn’t let up. Last night it started again and she asked, “Can I do it for the prom in the spring?” I replied that I didn’t think she would be 18 by then.

Then I looked at her—and threatened her, “Maybe I will write about it in my blog.” Her challenge was to go ahead and do it. She thinks everyone will back her up and then I will have to give in. She insists there is nothing wrong with the look and I am just old fashioned.

So what do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Please let me know. I promise to share the responses with Grace and then we will see if I change my mind. No promises.

In the spirit of election season, please vote TEAM DAD or TEAM GRACE.

(http://www.centralpennparent.com/Because-Im-the-Dad/September-2012/Piercing-predicament/)

by on Sep. 14, 2012 at 1:55 PM
Replies (31-38):
dusky_rose
by on Sep. 19, 2012 at 9:43 PM

Ok, thanks! I've only had my ears pierced once so I never knew that they put so much thought into this.

Quoting Vertical15:

I found this on google.  I think the ear is all cartilage but the name of the distinct piercngs are different.

Quoting dusky_rose:

I thought that the whole ear was made of cartilage.

Quoting Vertical15:

They are talking about cartilage which is considered more of a body piercing.  And does require a parents approval for anyone under 18.  I think the point he's trying to make is, this is still his baby even though shes almost  17?  I don't know this is all I found on the article.

Quoting dusky_rose:

Hmmmm.... hard to take this article seriously. If she has already had her ears pierced before, what is the big deal? I think there is some tongue in cheek here.





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Vertical15
by on Sep. 20, 2012 at 2:02 PM
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Every piercing on your entire body has a 'professional' name to it!  Crazy!

Quoting dusky_rose:

Ok, thanks! I've only had my ears pierced once so I never knew that they put so much thought into this.

Quoting Vertical15:

I found this on google.  I think the ear is all cartilage but the name of the distinct piercngs are different.

Quoting dusky_rose:

I thought that the whole ear was made of cartilage.

Quoting Vertical15:

They are talking about cartilage which is considered more of a body piercing.  And does require a parents approval for anyone under 18.  I think the point he's trying to make is, this is still his baby even though shes almost  17?  I don't know this is all I found on the article.

Quoting dusky_rose:

Hmmmm.... hard to take this article seriously. If she has already had her ears pierced before, what is the big deal? I think there is some tongue in cheek here.

 


 



.Angelica.
by on Sep. 20, 2012 at 2:54 PM

I would be okay with letting my daughter get it done. It's ear piercings, which I think is different than say tounge or lip. And she's almost 17.

Vertical15
by on Sep. 21, 2012 at 10:08 AM

I agree.

Quoting .Angelica.:

I would be okay with letting my daughter get it done. It's ear piercings, which I think is different than say tounge or lip. And she's almost 17.


Bob192
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 12:38 AM

At this point she is probably old enough to make that decision.  I had my cartilage pierced and let it grow up a few years ago.  I have scar tissue in there, but it is not bad enough to bother me.

countrygirlkat
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 3:47 PM

Team Grace for me.  I think there are much worse things she could be doing like drugs, sex, drinking, dropping out of school, etc.  I think as a parent we need to pick our battles and if the biggest problem you have with a 17 year old is that they want to pierce their ears you should feel proud of how you have raised them and show them you trust them a bit. 

Rushn311
by on Sep. 23, 2012 at 9:29 PM

Team Grace. It's ear piercings, and she's old enough.

Vertical15
by on Sep. 25, 2012 at 12:12 PM

I have scar tissue around/through every piercing I ever had and took out but none of it is that bad.

Quoting Bob192:

At this point she is probably old enough to make that decision.  I had my cartilage pierced and let it grow up a few years ago.  I have scar tissue in there, but it is not bad enough to bother me.

 

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