Not really a "health" post but a discipline post..need help & input pls.
Okay...so I love my son to death and I honestly have rarely had to ever get on to him. Of course the little things but nothing big. Here's the deal. In the last year, I have had issues with him not listening to me. My boyfriend feels like I let him walk all over me. My son respects me, but sometimes it is like he'll ask me something and I'll tell him no, then he'll do it anyways so then I have to tell him no again. Ok..if that was the case what would you do? Like example..today..he said he wanted to play ping pong but I told him no. So then he goes over to the ping pong table and picks up the paddle so my bf and I both were like we said no. Grrr...That's the main issues I have with him...nothing else honestly. He cleans his room like he should, does his homework and makes good grades...rarely gets in trouble at school. Other than that he's a great kid. He is 7 years old and in 1st grade btw.
Ok so on to what happened today. And I KNOW it was by accident and he wasn't thinking but he should not have been near my car with rocks regardless and he knows this. This evening he was playing outside with a friend of his and I was on the porch. I heard a thud and looked up and him and his friend were frozen looking at the back of my car. Apparently, my son's friend showed him a rock and my son was like eh whatever, and tossed it behind him (his back was facing the back of my car). Well when he tossed it back, the rock hit my back window. I was in shock because my entire back glass is cracked all the way across and I can literally hear it shattering. So my bf and his step Dad came over and they taped it up with electrical tape lol. But we could tell that the only thing holding it together is the tint on the inside. Anyways this is the only window NOT covered by warranty so I have no idea what I am going to do. I know I did not handle it correctly. I didn't make his friend go home, and I did not react right away mainly because I was in shock. My son NEVER does anything like this. I had called and text my son's friends Mom to come get him early but they didn't answer and ended up getting him on time. Then I went and talked to my son...I did lecture him about what happened and how serious this was. He's grounded for 1 week with no tv, no toys, no playing with friends. Basically come home, eat dinner, do homework and go to bed. Ugh. And I feel JUST AWFUL about it. :(. Crap. I feel like such an awful Mom because I don't feel that I disciplined him correctly or handled it correctly at all. I feel like I let him get away with too much. But then again I feel like I am getting too far gone in that I screwed up royally by not being on him earlier in life. Gah. Any helpful advice? And yes if you feel the need to be brutally blundt with me that's fine, it's probably what I need.