Love, Lust, Marriage: why do we get married?

[diva19_74]

So I was talking to a friend of mine, and she told me that after dating some amazing man (amazing looking, amazing in bed, the type of guy every girl wants) she picked the guy who was stable, responsible, reliable... not necessary the cute guy, the best sex, or even the one she was most attracted to or even envision spending her whole life with. 

BASICALLY SHE SETTLED...

So here is my question to you ladies... Why did you marry your husband? (HONESTLY)

1. When you met your husband was it lust or love at first sight?

2. Did you marry for stability?

3. Is your husband the man of your dreams?

4. When you look at your husband is it love or lust you feel?

5. You feel like you settled?

6. Did you marry your husband: because he was good in bed?

7. Had a good job and was a good provider?

8. Are you one of the lucky few to have the whole package?

[JennAngelica]

1. When you met your husband was it lust or love at first sight? Totally lust.  We met when I was 16.  I thought he was the cutest boy I had ever seen.  I swear, time stopped and angels came down from heaven singing.  LOL  it sounds funny, but seriously.....that's totally how I felt.

2. Did you marry for stability?  ha ha ha -- NOPE. 

3. Is your husband the man of your dreams?  Absolutely.

4. When you look at your husband is it love or lust you feel?  We've been together for 10 years now.  Although I still do lust after him it's, of course, not the same kind of feelings when we first met.   It's a deeper love that we have for each other.  It's the fact that we are connected in every way.  He might not be perfect, but he's perfect for me.  And I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. 

5. You feel like you settled? Absolutely not.

6. Did you marry your husband: because he was good in bed?  nope.  We didn't have sex before we were married.  So I couldn't even know!

7. Had a good job and was a good provider?  Nope.  He wasn't making much money at all at the time. 

8. Are you one of the lucky few to have the whole package?  I would scream it from the rooftops if I could --- YES!!   But I also want to say that just because I feel like he is the "Whole package" doesn't mean it's easy.  Every day we choose to love each other.  We choose to say uplifting words not hurtful ones.  We choose to be understanding and helpful.  We choose to let our love be an ACTION and not just a feeling.  We choose to put our marriage as top priority over everything else.   We work on it every day.  Sometimes, it's hard to make those choices.  But we do it and we're better because of it. 

[oldfashionSAHM]

 

Quoting diva19_74:

So I was talking to a friend of mine, and she told me that after dating some amazing man (amazing looking, amazing in bed, the type of guy every girl wants) she picked the guy who was stable, responsible, reliable... not necessary the cute guy, the best sex, or even the one she was most attracted to or even envision spending her whole life with. 

BASICALLY SHE SETTLED...

So here is my question to you ladies... Why did you marry your husband?I married my dh because i honestly was deeply in love with him (HONESTLY)

1. When you met your husband was it lust or love at first sight? neither.. when i met my dh i was wanting a friend. i had been living here for 3 months and hadn't met a single friend and was getting to the point of being lonely.

2. Did you marry for stability? No, but it came with the package. (same man) i dated a grocery store stock boy, i married a lowe's general employee that moved up to assist. store manager, now he is a cop (for the time being if he can't pass the POpat again then he loses his job)

3. Is your husband the man of your dreams?depends, i think he is sexy as hell, i believe he can be awesome in the sack (depending of if he wants a quicky or not :P), he is a pretty good father (i do believe he could be more involved with the kids), and he is def. not the guy you can live out your dreams with (i want a homestead andold fashioned life, he is all modern day mainstream).

4. When you look at your husband is it love or lust you feel? love. there is even a few times i can still set here and stare at him just thinking how much i do love him and how wonderful he is to put up with me and my craziness.

5. You feel like you settled?no.... i would rather be broke ass poor and struggling for the rest of my life with the man i love then have all the riches in the world and living with a man i didn't

6. Did you marry your husband: because he was good in bed? LOL that's funny... i would never married a guy based off sex. awesome sex and a added bonus but not a reason to marry.

7. Had a good job and was a good provider? dh did have a job and started supporting me and my older two girls a month after we met, even when we split up he would still help pay some of my bills so i wouldn't be hurting to bad.

8. Are you one of the lucky few to have the whole package? i believe so!!!

[Mipsy]

1) It was neither love or lust at first sight for me. We met when we were 14. We became friends. I started dating him out of boredom (he knows this).

2)Most definitely did not marry for stability. We were both in college and he was working a minimum wage part time job.

3)The man of my dreams? I honestly never sat and daydreamed what I wanted. He is the only person on this earth to understand me, that i know. And he's the only man who can see ME underneath it all.

4) Its complete and total love when i look at him!

5)I do not feel i settled at all.

6)We dated for 4 yrs when we got married and we never had sex til our wedding night, so no. I didnt marry him for sex.

7)I answered above what his job was when we married. Now he works his butt off providing for me and his son.

8)I do believe i am one of very few who has the whole package.

[yvonne37]

 well i can say i fell for him with time.. i saw lots of qualities in him.. he is an excellent father (has a child from a prior relationship), great lover, i feel we became friends before anything and i liked that.. there was lust, but that was not the  main reason why i married him.  we can talk about everything and he is a good provider, very hard working, fun, handsome and caring.. damn i hit the lottery! :)  oh and did i mention he is a great lover? lol