Vent. I am just kind of irked here. I have a 5 yr old, 2 year old and 3 wk old. I hardly have time to sleep let alone sit down or eat. I eat while standing almost every meal. I am up and down so much from the table its just easier to stand most times and I never ever get to finnish what is on my plate by half because someone always needs something from me right now. I am constantly running errands, folding endless piles of laundry, on hands and knees wiping various sticky substances off floors and out of carpets. Wiping walls free of fingerprints and smears, vaccuming, doing dishes hauling kids around in slings and on hips. I rarely get to drink my tea when its hot or have 5 minutes to myself in the bathroom. Tonight my husband came to me while I had just finnished feeding baby and was chucking some stuff in the dryer that needed to get dry tonight and was about to make a cup of tea and take a shower. He comes to me all worn out looking, (from what? He only had to work half day today and he spent all day in the basement surfing on the net) and asked me to feed the dog. I am thinking 'Why hasn't this been done already? You've been home all afternoon and haven't done a thing!' I grunted and he said, 'come on I have to go to the bathroom and then I am going to bed. please feed him' So I stop around getting the dogs food ready while he hogs up the bathroom. I am just miffed, how am I or any other mom fat at all I don't get a break! I just get fed up sometimes not getting time to do things when I want to do them for me and I never get to eat a full meal or a warm one for that matter and yet I am still dumpy! urg.
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First off I agree with the above, you need to have a talk with your DH/partner...if you are doing all the above he needs to step in and help, yes we are moms, but we are all entitled to some "me" time every now and then and if he was sitting on his ass half the afternoon and was about to go relieve his ass for another half an hour (that's usually how long my DH is in the bathroom) then he could've fed the dogs (I know it personally take my DH all of 2-5 minutes to fill both our dogs dishes and place them on our kitchen floor)...
Also, I have two kids, so you have one up on me and I do a lot around my house (laundry, cooking, cleaning, work FT as well as have a home based business, daycare pick up/drop off, etc), but I ALWAYS sit down to eat...I've never stood to eat a meal and I always am able to finish my meals should I choose to...maybe it's because I have a DH who does assist, but I know there are plenty of times where it's "mom to the rescue" because DH won't get off his butt...but never have I been in situations where I can't get 5 minutes to sit down and eat or drink my tea (not that I drink tea) or shower, etc...I think you really need to talk with your DH about how much stress your under because I know personally I do a TON of stuff, but I still can find minimum 15 minutes to myself a day...
But, I do get what your saying, we're always running around,here there so why is it that we're always packing on the pounds rather then shedding the calories.
I am a formula feeding (by choice), never co-sleeping, tummy sleeping, vaccinating, sleeping in their own room, time-out, CIO and spanking (when need be) believer, pro-induction (with Epi, of course), pro-choice , tattooed and pierced (and yes my daughter’s ear’s are pierced too), needs to lose some weight mama.
I remember that feeling, and I only had 2 kids. but I think in the busy-ness of all that you do, you may not eat as healthy as you would like. plus give yourself a break, you just had a baby. Hopefully you will do better than me. I didnt lose the excess weight until I had the time and energy once my kids were almost grown. It all gets a little easier the older they get. Please dont be so hard on yourself. our bodies along with the rest of us changes over time. I am a healthy weight now, but I will never have the body of a 20 year old, and thats okay. Wish I could encourage you more. You are doing such an important job being a wife and mother. We just dont get any recognition for it thou.
I know how you feel. It was the same way in my house but with only 2 kids. and when I went back to work it got worse. Well, he really didn't listen so I just stopped doing things. let the finger prints build up, and wiped up the spills, but didn't clean the stickier stuff. After about a month he got the idea. I let him know that I just didn't have time to do it all. Good luck!! And as for the being fat, stress and not sleeping, and not eating well will only make you keep the weight on.
I understand exactly what you're saying! I only have 1 DD but my DH would wake me up to tell me she was crying! I did the eating while standing and did for DH as if he were my second child. Not to mention our 2 cats. I deserved time for me, I locked myself in the bathroom and took a 2 hour bubble bath. DH came to the door more than a few times and I told him to take care of things. The house didn't fall down and everyone was ok when I got out of the tub. That was my first bath alone in over a year! After that it was a nightly thing only I didn't get 2 hours. :( You deserve time for you and you have to make that time. DH might work outside the home but you work in the home 24/7 and no sick days or weekends off! Make some time for you it's VERY important. You're worth it!! :o)
i agree with ms.emm
i am a mommy of two a three year old and a 1 year old..and my hubby is navy so he is never home we have spent MAYBE 7 months together total in 4 years ..hes been on deployment alot so i have been alone during both my preg. its def hard..after my first daughter i had to get into a routine and it was all about her at first and then i had to make time for myself too..with hubby never being there this was way hard...but i did it i found classes that i could take her to and walk with her stroller...then outdside i would walk with her
then when i was prego the 2nd time we would still take the mom and me class and i would walk with her...now i wait til nap time and i work out for 30-40 min the ea active on the wii or take a walk on my tredmil or i do pilates ,.
we are expection baby number three in july and i am super busy trying to get all the stuff we need to get together to build our home
im thankful hubby will be hoem this time around and home for three year without a deployment
i would talk to dh...wishin you luck mama
Quoting ms.emm:
Everyone has made some good comments so I won't repeat what's been said. All I can add is that most women go thru what you're experiencing and it will get better. If you can get your husband to help, great, if not, just take it one day at a time and do your best. Be as happy as you can even though you're wanting to make changes, they will happen. Diet wise, just try & eat healthy, keep lots of salad around and healthy snacks. And good luck.
Weightloss on a vacay
- norahsmommy
on Nov. 12, 2009 at 10:15 PM