ok..i have posted this before but this time its serious
My fiance HAS to lose weight. It has been an issue since we met in 2010 but now he is finally on board. He really has no choice. His back is giving him so much trouble that he was out of work for the past week. He went to pain management and they basically tl dhim lose weight, NOW. I am really worried about him. He has huge food issues but he know seems to really see that this is no longer a choice. I have told him to see the positive in this, that this IS something he can control..he doesnt have some condition he can't reverse. it could be worse.
So i need help with helping moniter his diet and help making healthier things. it has to be semi gradual and things that he will like. He is 400 pounds and 6 foot 4. he is 29 also. i did his bmr on livestrong and it seems he is allowed to have 2497 cals a day to lose 3 pounds a week. he is sedentary because his back has so many issues right now, a fact i am hoping will change as he loses weight. ANY help is appreciated. healthy lunch/dinner ideas...advice, success stories..anything. he has given me full control over the food in the house and i have told him if this doesnt work this time we are going to see a dr for it and he has to consider lapband surgery.
Because of his issues, can you see a nutritionist? That would be my only advice, that and maybe swimming would help him
thats a good idea, i am going to look up some nutritionists now! he is scheduled for aqua therapy starting soon :)
Quoting ZakTuffMavsMom:
Because of his issues, can you see a nutritionist? That would be my only advice, that and maybe swimming would help him
I think you'll be surprised at how much those two things will help. Seeing a nutritionist and educating himself will give him a sense of control and empowerment over his own habits. Since you said this has been since high school, he has probably never had anyone teach him how to eat to live and not live to eat. I have seen is quoted many times that the key to healthy weight loss 80-90% nutrition and 10-20% exercise. Another big thing will be having you by his side and going through the process with him. You may not need to lose weight, but having you make eating habit changes with him will make him not feel like he is alone.
Honestly, it sounds like he might need something more than just you telling him. If you all have been down this road before and nothing has changed, it still might not. If he is giving you all the control, it might build resentment for both of you if he doesn't lose the weight. I would suggest a couple of things. First, get him involved, because he has to want this for himself. Second, if he has a food addiction, check out an Overeaters Anno. group (go to OA.org) the meetings are free and helpful. Third, have him see a PT or exericse therapist for ideas on workouts he can do to get started. There are a million exercises that can be done sitting down.
Good luck to both of you!
ok thank you so much, i didnt know they had an OA program, i am def looking into that. yea i am fearing resentment as well..like i will be seen as his mom ya know? its gotten there before. he is starting physical therapy and aqua therapy soon, his pain management dr enrolled him already. thanks so much for the advice
Quotingonnon:
Honestly, it sounds like he might need something more than just you telling him. If you all have been down this road before and nothing has changed, it still might not. If he is giving you all the control, it might build resentment for both of you if he doesn't lose the weight. I would suggest a couple of things. First, get him involved, because he has to want this for himself. Second, if he has a food addiction, check out an Overeaters Anno. group (go to OA.org) the meetings are free and helpful. Third, have him see a PT or exericse therapist for ideas on workouts he can do to get started. There are a million exercises that can be done sitting down.
Good luck to both of you!
I understand! My husband always tells me that he's going to get it together and workout and eat right. But he puts forth no effort. One thing I learned is that I can't do this for him. I tell him to be sure his life insurance is up to snuff because I'll be pissed if he just drops dead on me! I will say the more changes he notices in me the more he tries to be healthier. He won't exercise, but he is making slow changes on his diet, depending on the day.
Quoting jessiet143:ok thank you so much, i didnt knwo they had an OA program, i am def looking into that. yea i am fearing resentment as well..lke i will be seen as his mom ya know? its gotten there before. he is starting physical therapy and aqua therapy soon, his pain management dr enrolled him already. thanks so much for the advice
Quotingonnon:
Honestly, it sounds like he might need something more than just you telling him. If you all have been down this road before and nothing has changed, it still might not. If he is giving you all the control, it might build resentment for both of you if he doesn't lose the weight. I would suggest a couple of things. First, get him involved, because he has to want this for himself. Second, if he has a food addiction, check out an Overeaters Anno. group (go to OA.org) the meetings are free and helpful. Third, have him see a PT or exericse therapist for ideas on workouts he can do to get started. There are a million exercises that can be done sitting down.
Good luck to both of you!
Gl
GREAT advice...totally agree! Good luck to you both mama! You are an awesome wife in how supportive you are to him...I admire you for that!
Quoting nlonnon:Honestly, it sounds like he might need something more than just you telling him. If you all have been down this road before and nothing has changed, it still might not. If he is giving you all the control, it might build resentment for both of you if he doesn't lose the weight. I would suggest a couple of things. First, get him involved, because he has to want this for himself. Second, if he has a food addiction, check out an Overeaters Anno. group (go to OA.org) the meetings are free and helpful. Third, have him see a PT or exericse therapist for ideas on workouts he can do to get started. There are a million exercises that can be done sitting down.
Good luck to both of you!
Weightloss on a vacay
- jessiet143
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 9:50 AM