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I'm new to this group. My name is Jenny. I weigh 290 right now, but tomorrow could be 280. I fluctuate a lot and I don't really know why that is. I am married to a skinny guy which I find funny because he basically never eats because he isn't hungry and I can NOT relate to that. I have two wonderful kids who I feed healthy food because I don't want them to have to deal with diabetes or any other health problems. My son just turned 1 last month and My daughter is 2 turning 3 in April.

When I really try, I can lose weight. I proved that to myself during my pregnancy. I wanted to eat healthier for my baby and I ended up gaining nothing and losing weight after I gave birth. I was about 30 lbs less after I gave birth than I was beforre I got pregnant. However I have gained every bit of it back now. 

I do want to say that I like my body which is why I think I have such a hard time actually putting in the effort and eating right. I enjoy food and I never work out. I did like that my diabetes was under control when I was eating rigth and walking a mile a day and I want it to be that way again.

So, how do you guys motivate yourselves? How can I motivate myself? What are some easy exercises other than walking that I can try. Keep in mind, my husband works 40 hours a week and I am a SAHM.

So, I don't have time away from the kids to exercise. It would have to be with them right there underfoot. And the reason I stopped walking is because I can't really do it with two kids. I mean, yes I can and do go on walks, but not quickly because my daughter likes to stop and pick up leaves. Plus, she's two, she walks slow.

Anyway, this is rambling on. If anyone has any advice or ideas, please let me know. Thank you.

by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:03 PM
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mem82
by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:30 PM

The meds won't work long term. 8(

I don't know what to tell you. I guess you have to reach inside yourself and make the choice. I smoked for years, and couldn't get scared away from it. When I decided to quit, I did and never picked the habit back up again.

You know you should lose weight, that you need to, but there is no magic bullet.

Quoting jendawgrox2004:

That type of thing does scare me, but my sugars are under control with medication. I would just like to get off the medication. Youa re the second person who suggested something frightening me into losing weight and while I agree that might work at the beginning, I don't think I will be able to stay motivated. I need something that helps me track the weight and shows me that it actually is happeneing even if it's slow. I hate that it's not an instant gratification type of situation. I have to keep working at it and I lose my focus after like 20 pounds. I don't know. Thank you for your suggestion.


Quoting mem82:

Google pictures of diabetics who don't keep their sugar under control. My dad has had open, running, pus oozing sores on his feet for YEARS that won't heal and he is going blind all because he didn't keep his sugar in check. He has also been in a coma three times because of it. As a child I was terrified of finding my dad dead because he slid into his first coma during an afternoon nap. If the pictures and stories you find don't motivate you and if knowing you could leave your kids motherless doesn't scare you, I don't know what will, honestly.




caseypaige
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:40 PM

I started using my fitness pal in January, so far I am down 11lbs and I haven't even started to exercise yet.  I also have 2 kids at home and find it hard to find the time to work-out or the energy to do so.  The other day my 4 yr old little girl put on a sweatshirt and said "I look so fat".  This killed me.  I told her she is absolutely not fat and not to talk about herself like that and that she is beautiful.  I talked to my husband and asked where she got that from, he said she got it from me.  I thought that I had always tried very hard to be confident in front of my girls, but apparently I haven't done a very good job.  So for me that was it.  I still have 68lbs to lose to reach my goal but this time I will not stop until I get there.  I take one day at a time, that is the only way for me to get through this.

jendawgrox2004
by Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:45 PM

Thank you. I have at least one of those things down. All I drink is water. I eat whole grains, and lean meats, and produce. I also eat unhealthy things as well, but I think the main problem is I eat way too much. Like I said I have lost weight before, but I ate all the same things, just less. Thank you very much for your suggestions. i will look on youtube, I couldn't find anything on demand last time I looked. I also just signed up for one of those sites the other lady had suggested.

I am so terrible at exercising, always have been. I like sports but who am I going to play with? I play outside with my kids obviously, just nothing vigorous enough.  I will try your suggestions. Thank you.

Quoting mcginnisc:

Oh honey..

Most of us have to hit rock bottom for us to be truly motivated. This is something I would like for you to do... sit down and write out WHY you would like to lose weight or be healthy... It can be as silly as wearing a shirt you haven't worn for years, or it can be serious about your Diabetes. It doesn't matter how many things you write downor how arbitrary it may seem, just make that list, make copies and keep them wherever you will see them daily. 

Motivation has to come frm within you. I can give you the tools, but you have to follow through. 

The first step is to really look at what you eat, why you eat and how much you eat. Weight loss is 80% diet and 20% activity. You should be eating lean proteins, tons of produce, and lots of water. If you decide to eat grains, make sure they are whole grains.

Take your weight and divide by 2. This is a general guideline of how many oz of water you should drink daily.

Exercises- There are tons that you can do with kids at home! Many of us in here are SAHM so you are not alone. You can find workouts on youtube.com, On Demand, and Netflix. Some of them incoporate kids into them! You could also invest in a few DVDS as you can find them for $10 or less sometimes. Jumping rope, lunges, squats, pushups, pull ups, situps...all of those are easily done at home.

You can do it!

Let me know if I can help you. I'm in the process of getting my Personal Trainer Certifications, a SAHM, and I've been on my own weight loss journey.  



jendawgrox2004
by Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:50 PM

I'm glad you find your motivation. I'm still looking for mine obviously, but I'm going to try anyway. I just signed up for myfitnesspal and logged my food for today. I think I'm going to go for a walk, since my husband is off for today and then maybe try some of the exercises suggested on here. Thank you for responding. 11 pounds is great. Congrats! It encourages me actually.

Quoting caseypaige:

I started using my fitness pal in January, so far I am down 11lbs and I haven't even started to exercise yet.  I also have 2 kids at home and find it hard to find the time to work-out or the energy to do so.  The other day my 4 yr old little girl put on a sweatshirt and said "I look so fat".  This killed me.  I told her she is absolutely not fat and not to talk about herself like that and that she is beautiful.  I talked to my husband and asked where she got that from, he said she got it from me.  I thought that I had always tried very hard to be confident in front of my girls, but apparently I haven't done a very good job.  So for me that was it.  I still have 68lbs to lose to reach my goal but this time I will not stop until I get there.  I take one day at a time, that is the only way for me to get through this.



jendawgrox2004
by Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:52 PM

I know. That's why I want off them. Plus they aren't good for me anyway. See, I quit smoking so easily, but I was never really addicted to it. It was a 17 year old phase type thing. I wish losing weight was as easy as that was for me. We each have our own vices I suppose. Grrr. I wish is was like magic. Thank you for responding.


Quoting mem82:

The meds won't work long term. 8(

I don't know what to tell you. I guess you have to reach inside yourself and make the choice. I smoked for years, and couldn't get scared away from it. When I decided to quit, I did and never picked the habit back up again.

You know you should lose weight, that you need to, but there is no magic bullet.

Quoting jendawgrox2004:

That type of thing does scare me, but my sugars are under control with medication. I would just like to get off the medication. Youa re the second person who suggested something frightening me into losing weight and while I agree that might work at the beginning, I don't think I will be able to stay motivated. I need something that helps me track the weight and shows me that it actually is happeneing even if it's slow. I hate that it's not an instant gratification type of situation. I have to keep working at it and I lose my focus after like 20 pounds. I don't know. Thank you for your suggestion.


Quoting mem82:

Google pictures of diabetics who don't keep their sugar under control. My dad has had open, running, pus oozing sores on his feet for YEARS that won't heal and he is going blind all because he didn't keep his sugar in check. He has also been in a coma three times because of it. As a child I was terrified of finding my dad dead because he slid into his first coma during an afternoon nap. If the pictures and stories you find don't motivate you and if knowing you could leave your kids motherless doesn't scare you, I don't know what will, honestly.






KCisPaulsMom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:53 PM

Could it be that you feel overwhelmed by the idea of weightloss and all that you believe goes with it? Maybe it might be easier for you to set small goals rather than thinking about the end result... or how long it will take? One goal might be to track your calories for a week just to see how much you are actually eating. You may also note if you feel hungry when you eat or not. The next goal might be to switch out some unhealthy choices by healthy alteratives.... Then, maybe a third goal would be to find a beginning workout DVD that you do three times per week before the kids get up, while they are napping or after they go to bed. (I workout before mine get up... otherwise it won't get done).

I can tell you that I have a friend who is diabetic. His doctor put him on a special diet and he has lost 74 pounds. He doesn't take medication anymore and he finds it so freeing that he is now VERY motivated to maintain his weight.

Everyone gets tempted. You just have to get back on plan ASAP when you get off plan. It happens to everyone.

javamama86
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:57 PM
I know how hard it is! I started an online accountability group full of people wanting to try. I dont get breaks from my children either so all my workouts are at night or when they are napping.

email me!!

teamfitness13@gmail.com
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vboatner
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 3:58 PM

CM studios has good videos. Also if you are a beginner to working out, hasfit.com has awesome videos for beginners and up. And they are both free!! I was in your boat in 2011. I was at 290 and did not think that I was doing that bad. Then my pants got too tight and I knew it was time. I am now at 231 and still losing. Something will click eventually and you will get the motivation that you need. Then you will be able to get to where you need to be.

Quoting jendawgrox2004:

Thank you. I have at least one of those things down. All I drink is water. I eat whole grains, and lean meats, and produce. I also eat unhealthy things as well, but I think the main problem is I eat way too much. Like I said I have lost weight before, but I ate all the same things, just less. Thank you very much for your suggestions. i will look on youtube, I couldn't find anything on demand last time I looked. I also just signed up for one of those sites the other lady had suggested.

I am so terrible at exercising, always have been. I like sports but who am I going to play with? I play outside with my kids obviously, just nothing vigorous enough.  I will try your suggestions. Thank you.

Quoting mcginnisc:

Oh honey..

Most of us have to hit rock bottom for us to be truly motivated. This is something I would like for you to do... sit down and write out WHY you would like to lose weight or be healthy... It can be as silly as wearing a shirt you haven't worn for years, or it can be serious about your Diabetes. It doesn't matter how many things you write downor how arbitrary it may seem, just make that list, make copies and keep them wherever you will see them daily. 

Motivation has to come frm within you. I can give you the tools, but you have to follow through. 

The first step is to really look at what you eat, why you eat and how much you eat. Weight loss is 80% diet and 20% activity. You should be eating lean proteins, tons of produce, and lots of water. If you decide to eat grains, make sure they are whole grains.

Take your weight and divide by 2. This is a general guideline of how many oz of water you should drink daily.

Exercises- There are tons that you can do with kids at home! Many of us in here are SAHM so you are not alone. You can find workouts on youtube.com, On Demand, and Netflix. Some of them incoporate kids into them! You could also invest in a few DVDS as you can find them for $10 or less sometimes. Jumping rope, lunges, squats, pushups, pull ups, situps...all of those are easily done at home.

You can do it!

Let me know if I can help you. I'm in the process of getting my Personal Trainer Certifications, a SAHM, and I've been on my own weight loss journey.  




GoldenLinds
by Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:02 PM
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I'll tell y ou its not always easy t o motivate. I spent years convincing myself to be happy with my body but once I finally belived that mentality I got overweight and need to break it. Its complicated. Anyhow the thing that had kicked me into doing just something, anything was taking a photo. I took a photo of myself nude. It was what I needed to see what I want to change and what I can still appreciate about my size. You don't have to go hard core right away to make things change. I love watching tv. I really do. So now I do commercial break work outs. 10 pushups on one break, crunches all the way through the next break. It accomplishes 2 things. 1 I'm moving more than I normally would and 2 I'm not spending that commercial break rummaging in the cabinet. I don't have to motivate up to doing everything to lose weight. Its just one small change and I can add to it later. In the summer I go on walks and it can be done!! I put the older child in the stroller or let them take a bike with a push handle. And the younger child I wear in the sling or carrier. Its great to have the extra weight to carry but I still have my hands to deal with the other one. If you do it everyday they will settle into the routine quickly.
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Aurorasmom
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 4:04 PM
For me, getting motivated to start was the hardest part. After that, motivation came easy. Every time I was able to buy a smaller pant size, the way I felt with the new foods, they way it was my body craving exercise, not just me saying I had to. Everyone is different though. The one thing I know is that until you're mentally ready, nothing is going to work


Quoting jendawgrox2004:

That type of thing does scare me, but my sugars are under control with medication. I would just like to get off the medication. Youa re the second person who suggested something frightening me into losing weight and while I agree that might work at the beginning, I don't think I will be able to stay motivated. I need something that helps me track the weight and shows me that it actually is happeneing even if it's slow. I hate that it's not an instant gratification type of situation. I have to keep working at it and I lose my focus after like 20 pounds. I don't know. Thank you for your suggestion.



Quoting mem82:

Google pictures of diabetics who don't keep their sugar under control. My dad has had open, running, pus oozing sores on his feet for YEARS that won't heal and he is going blind all because he didn't keep his sugar in check. He has also been in a coma three times because of it. As a child I was terrified of finding my dad dead because he slid into his first coma during an afternoon nap. If the pictures and stories you find don't motivate you and if knowing you could leave your kids motherless doesn't scare you, I don't know what will, honestly.





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