his lecture started like this: "You know I hare Fat. But you should be realistic with yourself and dress to your body size/shape" and it just got worse from there. Apparently, I dress like "a mom" and am frumpy all the time, I should just accept the I'm "fat" and buy more clothes to fit me.... yet, when I do attempt to buy clothes this is the man eho questions if it'll fit in a month. Then he goes on about how I need to wear makeup and how when I do I will look "hotter".... then he pointed out a tall, thin, model-type woman, dressed to the nines, wearing stilletos and looking like she's about to walk out on a runway and says, "I wish you'd dress like that."
Yes, I've put on some weight since my accident, but not much really. I'm working to get it off noe that I have been given the go ahead from my doctor. However, my style has NOT changed since the day we met! I have always rarely worn makeup, and then mostky for special occasions. I have always worn comfortable clothes and shoes, if it's uncomfortable I'm not buying it! I have had from very short to very long hair because I donate it every 2 years or so. But it's always a simple style, when it's long its always in a ponytail- unless it's a special occasion.
Why do I need to change now? And seriously? I'm not FAT!
I dont know what to do, or what to say. I was beteeen tears and anger in the mall during his lecture and now ime mostly just mad! Does he really think I need to CHANGE? Why? ? Why can't I just be the me he's known for 9 years and married to for 8?
what do I do? I'm so lost you guys!