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Is adoption allowed in Islam?

Posted by on May. 21, 2011 at 7:05 PM
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assalamalaykum sisters hope your all in best ov health. Just wanted to no wether adoption is allowed in Islam ? Iv herd no due to complications wen the child reaches puberty. But then again iv herd it's ok if you were to adopt a baby or toddler cs they wouldn't no the diff between u n their birth mum cs they wud class you as there mum. Pls help as I'm seriously considering adopting if my fertility treatment fails. Allah hafiz xx
by on May. 21, 2011 at 7:05 PM
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AmmuJSE
by on May. 22, 2011 at 9:39 PM

Yes and No.

Yes, you can adopt because there are rules on it. Such as the child cannot take your name, must know that they are adopted things of that nature. If you adopt a child with the intent of hiding the fact that they are adopted, then that is wrong.

 

My FIL was "adopted" by his stepfather. His father died when he was 2 months old and my GIL married again and her husband adopted my FIL. They also adopted a sister for my FIL when he was 13-14 (he actually adopted her and took her home and said she was his sister....not my GIL's going to an orphanage and adopting her LOL). 

I'll find some "rules". 

AmmuJSE
by on May. 22, 2011 at 9:39 PM

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once said that a person who cares for an orphaned child will be in Paradise with him, and motioned to show that they would be as close as two fingers of a single hand.  An orphan himself, Muhammad paid special attention to the care of children.  He himself adopted a former slave and raised him with the same care as if he were his own son.

However, the Qur'an gives specific rules about the legal relationship between a child and his/her adoptive family.  The child's biological family is never hidden; their ties to the child are never severed.  The Qur'an specifically reminds adoptive parents that they are not the child's biological parents:

"...Nor has He made your adopted sons your (biological) sons.  Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths.  But Allah tells (you) the Truth, and He shows the (right) Way.  Call them by (the names of) their fathers; that is juster in the sight of Allah.  But if you know not their father's (names, call them) your brothers in faith, or your trustees.  But there is no blame on you if you make a mistake therein.  (What counts is) the intention of your hearts.  And Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful."

(Qur'an 33:4-5)

The guardian/child relationship has specific rules under Islamic law, which render the relationship a bit different than what is common adoption practice today.  The Islamic term for what is commonly called adoption is kafala, which comes from a word that means "to feed."  In essence, it describes more of a foster-parent relationship.  Some of the rules in Islam surrounding this relationship:

  • An adopted child retains his or her own biological family name (surname) and does not change his or her name to match that of the adoptive family.
  • An adopted child inherits from his or her biological parents, not automatically from the adoptive parents.
  • When the child is grown, members of the adoptive family are not considered blood relatives, and are therefore not muhrim to him or her.  "Muhrim" refers to a specific legal relationship that regulates marriage and other aspects of life.  Essentially, members of the adoptive family would be permissible as possible marriage partners, and rules of modesty exist between the grown child and adoptive family members of the opposite sex.
  • If the child is provided with property/wealth from the biological family, adoptive parents are commanded to take care and not intermingle that property/wealth with their own.  They serve merely as trustees.

These Islamic rules emphasize to the adoptive family that they are not taking the place of the biological family -- they are trustees and caretakers of someone else's child.  Their role is very clearly defined, but nevertheless very valued and important.

It is also important to note that in Islam, the extended family network is vast and very strong.  It is rare for a child to be completely orphaned, without a single family member to care for him or her.  Islam places a great emphasis on the ties of kinship -- a completely abandoned child is practically unheard of.  Islamic law would place an emphasis on locating a relative to care for the child, before allowing someone outside of the family, much less the community or country, to adopt and remove the child from his or her familial, cultural, and religious roots.  This is especially important during times of war, famine, or economic crisis -- when families may be temporarily uprooted or divided.

"Did He not find you an orphan and give you shelter?  And He found you wandering, and He gave you guidance.  And He found you in need, and made you independent.  Therefore, treat not the orphan with harshness, nor drive away a petitioner (unheard).  But the bounty of the Lord - rehearse and proclaim!"

(Qur'an 93:6-11)

LillyJDv2.0
by on Jun. 16, 2011 at 3:31 PM


Quoting AmmuJSE:

Yes and No.

Yes, you can adopt because there are rules on it. Such as the child cannot take your name, must know that they are adopted things of that nature. If you adopt a child with the intent of hiding the fact that they are adopted, then that is wrong.


This is my understanding as well. My husband and I are planning to foster and adopt within the next year or two inshAllah

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