I have two sisters, one older and one younger. My younger sister is the problem...or actually her husband, my BIL is. I hardly ever hear from her anymore. It's not like i can go over to her house or call her right now. I'm in another country for my job, and she has to let my parents and my other sister know when they can even call her on her phone because it's not always paid up. I usually send her e-mails, which I don't see any response from for weeks. Usually they're a couple of sentences and it's more of a "yeah I'm still alive" verification for me. I love my sister, but she's a complete idiot for marrying her husband. I'm the only one who hasn't stuck my nose in her business because I do know she's pissed off at my Mom and my older sister for doing so. I'm trying to make sure I'm not burning any bridges with her because she'd cut off communication with me entirely. And I know what everyone who's made it this far into my vent is wondering, what's the matter with BIL?
Apparently, besides the fact that he treats her like crap when she works full time and then comes home she has to pick up after his lazy messy ass and has no time to do anything. Meanwhile, he's been sitting on his butt all day playing video games trashing the kitchen and whatever area he has decided to "settle" for the day with his gaming. He can't work due to a car accident they were in a while back and hurt his foot. (He also REFUSES to put in for dissability or unemployment because it would make him less "manly". Because it's not "manly" to make sure you and your spouse are okay financially?) Here's the FUN part. They did get a settlement to pay for the surgery to fix his foot, and he doesn't want the surgery because he's afraid of having to go through all that pain again...even though after a while through therapy he wouldn't be in pain ANYMORE! Now he's waisting the money that should be going to pay for his surgery with some half assed idea of starting a pallet building business. (Which he has told my other BIL and my Dad, and he could maybe make $6K a year with the speed he can put them together because of his foot pain. Not exactly a "good" business pursuit.)
I also just found out, after having attempted to send my sister flowers for Christmas, that he was affraid of being "served" so he told the flower delivery guy he had the wrong address and my sister never got her flowers; however some unsuspecting people got a mysterious bouquet on their doorstep. Apparently, shortly before the flower order, he was involved in a "road rage" incident. I don't know if it was BIL or the other person who insitgated it, but in the end the other driver pulled off to the side of the road and BIL pulled in right behind him. The other driver got out of their car to confront him, BIL pulls out a gun and points it at an UNARMED person. The other driver ran back in their car and drove away. Needless to say they were reported, the cops pulled BIL and my sister over and arrested them. My little sister has had handcuffs slapped on her because of her DUMB ASS husband! And he thinks he's a "big man" for doing this shit! (Learned from my other BIL while he was bragging to him about what happened.) My little sister could have been hurt while he was road raging not to mention if the other driver had a gun on them too? What the hell???!!!!!
I love my sister, but I just don't know what happened to the girl I used to know. The one who wouldn't put up with that kind of shit from anyone. Her husband has taken away her self esteem and she has no confidence that she'd be able to do better. (Which I know is BULLSHIT! She could do SO MUCH better!)
I wish when she told him they either got married or he moved out that he had just moved out of her house and let her move on with her life. (Yes, that's the only reason they got married.) Unfortunately, he's enjoying his free ride with her at the moment getting to sit on his ass for the rest of his life, or until my sister "wakes up" and leaves his sorry ass. ARGH!!!!