Followup question: If you're going to break their rules, are you at least going to be honest about it?
This is a follow up question from the one I posted earlier about following the other families rules when their kid comes over. Things like if the other kid isn't allowed to watch television, the television stays off or the other kid isn't allowed sugar, so you don't serve any. Most families responded that they would respect the wishes of the other family. My question is directed at the people who had a response like "lighten up. Spending time with friends is supposed to be fun. A little (fill in the blank) won't hurt anything. It's not like they're being served beer." If you know you're going to let your house run as normal regardless of the other parent's restrictions, are you up front about it? When Jenny's parents are expalining that they don't want her watching any television, do you smile and nod and let them watch it anyway or do you tell them that your kids have their shows they like to watch and the television will get turned on of they ask for them? If Johny's parents tell you they don't want him have sugar, do you smile and nod or do you explain that you have a candy bowl in the kitchen that your kids are allowed to snack from and you are't going to tell them no just because Johny isn't supposed to have any? At least if you are up front with them, they can make an informed decision. Otherwise you are just lying to them.