I'm talking about my husband.. I'm a SAHM and when it comes to the weekends I don't think he gets that sometimes I just want a LITTLE break.. By break what I mean is for him to get up and feed the kids breakfast.. I do it 5 days a week and would like 1 break on the weekends not even both days.. Why do I have to bitch about it to him EVERY weekend in order for it to happen UGH!!! I just don't get it and he doesn't either.. Last night I slept like crap and my ear is bothering me like it's infected and he knew this but yet it's 8:30 and he's still F-ing in bed.. Or he is upstairs on the computer.. Either way I'm a little annoyed because it would be nice to have his help and company.. I made the kids breakfast and now they are running around like crazies but whatever.. I guess I'll have my break later..
It's just annoying that I feel like EVERY weekend we have the SAME conversation......
Ok I feel better now that it's been vented about.. :) :)
UPDATE:::: So, last night hubby and I finally talked about things.. Apparently he feels as if his job means nothing and that when he gets home sometimes I expect him to do to much.. (his jobs at home include mowing the grass, taking out the trash when full and on Wednesdays, bringing the laundry into the basement when asked and ocasionally emptying the dishwasher)... I told him that I don't want be his mom and ONCE in a while it would be nice if he could help without me asking and I'm NOT saying it has to be during the week.. I also told him that I feel like he NEVER does anything for ME as far as flowers (not expensive ones and not all the time), or even ice cream without asking, or calling to say DON'T COOK I'll bring something home.. It's the LITTLE THINGS!!!!
I think we both heard each other and hopefully things will be better!!!! I also told him that I really just want his company in the morning for a little bit at least!!!
It seems to be that most men are like that. My DH is still in bed as well and he probably won't be waking up until about 9:30 or 10. I wake up every morning with the kids between 6:30 and 7, I would love to sleep in one day a week, or maybe take a shower without company! lol. Oh well, I guess they will never learn!
I don't even care if I sleep in.. I really just want his company and his assistance.. Also I told him the best weather for mowing the grass is around 9am because tonight it will be hotter even with the sun down than this am (according to online). I have not seen or heard from him but I don't think he's sleeping I think h's just on the computer.. I think it's more annoying to know he's awake and just not coming to be with us.. UGH!!!! I know he does check into work from home and he likes to check FB and stuff like that in the am but I have a laptop he could use and at least I would have company.. OH WELL!! I'm glad you seem to understand :)
Quoting friend8622:It seems to be that most men are like that. My DH is still in bed as well and he probably won't be waking up until about 9:30 or 10. I wake up every morning with the kids between 6:30 and 7, I would love to sleep in one day a week, or maybe take a shower without company! lol. Oh well, I guess they will never learn!
Yeah, that would be more annoying to know he's awake and just not coming down to spend time or even have his presence around! Hugs!
Quoting rocamom:I don't even care if I sleep in.. I really just want his company and his assistance.. Also I told him the best weather for mowing the grass is around 9am because tonight it will be hotter even with the sun down than this am (according to online). I have not seen or heard from him but I don't think he's sleeping I think h's just on the computer.. I think it's more annoying to know he's awake and just not coming to be with us.. UGH!!!! I know he does check into work from home and he likes to check FB and stuff like that in the am but I have a laptop he could use and at least I would have company.. OH WELL!! I'm glad you seem to understand :)
Quoting friend8622:It seems to be that most men are like that. My DH is still in bed as well and he probably won't be waking up until about 9:30 or 10. I wake up every morning with the kids between 6:30 and 7, I would love to sleep in one day a week, or maybe take a shower without company! lol. Oh well, I guess they will never learn!
Amy, Wife to Paul and Mother to Luke 5 years old, Ben 4 years old, and Ryan 2 year old.
Nick needs medicine mixed into his chocolate milk and he's 8 so he can't be trusted with that !! :) My kids will get themselves pop tarts but again they are 8 and 5 so really can't be on their own for breakfast just yet YA KNOW.. I have talked to my hubby about it and when I do he gets better for a bit but why do I have to KEEP talking to him about it?? I think that's my annoyance.. I'll probably talk to him about it later or if we have 5 min without kids..
Quoting psych_mom:
Thankfully mine feed themselves these days. I do get what your saying though, my ex could be that way (but he had other issues). Maybe you could tell him that you have your laptop set up for him to use.
Understandable about the age... mine are 8, 9 and 11 so no 5 year olds around and the 11 year old helps out the younger ones if needed. I get how annoying it is having to talk to the hubby about something time and time again about something can be. You would think that once they start working on changing something that they would keep it up. I my hubby usually listens to what I have to say when I talk to him and last night I was trying to explain something to him and he wouldn't let me finish, assumed what I was saying and I felt completely disrespected. I took my wedding rings off and laid them on my night stand. I told him I would wear them again when he was ready to respect me as his wife and listen to what I had to say completely and communate with me. Communication used to be his downfall and I know that if I let it slip and not get his attention it can go back to being a problem.
Quoting rocamom:Nick needs medicine mixed into his chocolate milk and he's 8 so he can't be trusted with that !! :) My kids will get themselves pop tarts but again they are 8 and 5 so really can't be on their own for breakfast just yet YA KNOW.. I have talked to my hubby about it and when I do he gets better for a bit but why do I have to KEEP talking to him about it?? I think that's my annoyance.. I'll probably talk to him about it later or if we have 5 min without kids..
Quoting psych_mom:
Thankfully mine feed themselves these days. I do get what your saying though, my ex could be that way (but he had other issues). Maybe you could tell him that you have your laptop set up for him to use.
You know my husband can be pretty awsome so I don't want people to think I'm dogging on him.. but I was just really frustrated this am.. I think because I slept like crap and don't feel 100% this morning but it just got to me I guess.. :) hehehe.. Thanks hun and I h ope you and your hubby get it all worked out too :)
Quoting psych_mom:Understandable about the age... mine are 8, 9 and 11 so no 5 year olds around and the 11 year old helps out the younger ones if needed. I get how annoying it is having to talk to the hubby about something time and time again about something can be. You would think that once they start working on changing something that they would keep it up. I my hubby usually listens to what I have to say when I talk to him and last night I was trying to explain something to him and he wouldn't let me finish, assumed what I was saying and I felt completely disrespected. I took my wedding rings off and laid them on my night stand. I told him I would wear them again when he was ready to respect me as his wife and listen to what I had to say completely and communate with me. Communication used to be his downfall and I know that if I let it slip and not get his attention it can go back to being a problem.
Quoting rocamom:Nick needs medicine mixed into his chocolate milk and he's 8 so he can't be trusted with that !! :) My kids will get themselves pop tarts but again they are 8 and 5 so really can't be on their own for breakfast just yet YA KNOW.. I have talked to my hubby about it and when I do he gets better for a bit but why do I have to KEEP talking to him about it?? I think that's my annoyance.. I'll probably talk to him about it later or if we have 5 min without kids..
Quoting psych_mom:
Thankfully mine feed themselves these days. I do get what your saying though, my ex could be that way (but he had other issues). Maybe you could tell him that you have your laptop set up for him to use.
I see your post where he does awesome stuff. I think good husbands do the occasional frustrating things as well:) I saw where your husband went to the store last night and got your ice cream and I see how happy you guys look in all your pictures. I was just giving you an example of how they can fall back into old habits. Trust me, we talked after that and we are back to being happy now, lol. Sometimes they don't even realize that they are going back to doing what they have been changing until you get their attention and sometimes being creative keeps their attention.
Quoting rocamom:You know my husband can be pretty awsome so I don't want people to think I'm dogging on him.. but I was just really frustrated this am.. I think because I slept like crap and don't feel 100% this morning but it just got to me I guess.. :) hehehe.. Thanks hun and I h ope you and your hubby get it all worked out too :)
Quoting psych_mom:Understandable about the age... mine are 8, 9 and 11 so no 5 year olds around and the 11 year old helps out the younger ones if needed. I get how annoying it is having to talk to the hubby about something time and time again about something can be. You would think that once they start working on changing something that they would keep it up. I my hubby usually listens to what I have to say when I talk to him and last night I was trying to explain something to him and he wouldn't let me finish, assumed what I was saying and I felt completely disrespected. I took my wedding rings off and laid them on my night stand. I told him I would wear them again when he was ready to respect me as his wife and listen to what I had to say completely and communate with me. Communication used to be his downfall and I know that if I let it slip and not get his attention it can go back to being a problem.
Quoting rocamom:Nick needs medicine mixed into his chocolate milk and he's 8 so he can't be trusted with that !! :) My kids will get themselves pop tarts but again they are 8 and 5 so really can't be on their own for breakfast just yet YA KNOW.. I have talked to my hubby about it and when I do he gets better for a bit but why do I have to KEEP talking to him about it?? I think that's my annoyance.. I'll probably talk to him about it later or if we have 5 min without kids..
Quoting psych_mom:
Thankfully mine feed themselves these days. I do get what your saying though, my ex could be that way (but he had other issues). Maybe you could tell him that you have your laptop set up for him to use.
Last week of school?
- rocamom
on Jun. 24, 2012 at 8:34 AM