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Do you pay your kids for good grades?

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Paying Your Kids for Good Grades = Epic Parent Fail

Posted by Andrew Kardon on November 21, 2012 at 9:24 PM

Scrabble letters spelling "MONEY"I was a good student growing up. I always got good grades so it was never really an issue. Same with my wife. And now (we're hoping), it's the same with our kids. At least so far.

My wife and I try to instill the importance of education in our kids. We try to show them that they need to go to school and learn as much as they can. How else are they ever going to become Video Game Makers when they're older?

We certainly encourage our kids to do well in school and praise them for working hard. But we've never rewarded them for a specific grade on their report card. I find it sad, actually, that some parents will pay their kids for every single A that they get on their report card. This is just all kinds of ridiculous to me.

I pay enough school taxes as it is already. I'm paying the teachers' salaries, but now I gotta pay the students to learn too? That just seems idiotic to me and a complete betrayal of the entire education system.

I'm all for encouragement and positive reinforcement. Your kid gets an A, that's fantastic. Let them know how proud you are. Heck, even if your kid gets a C, if they normally get Ds and worked their butt off to get a C, they deserve some praise. It's all about putting in the effort and doing your best. In the end, that's the ultimate take away from school.

You're also setting a horrific example by paying kids per letter grade. So what if they don't really care about the money at the moment? Maybe they just had a birthday and got a ton of dough. So now they don't bother putting in any effort and they get Ds. Oh, well. Too bad. Kids have a horrible sense of money to begin with, so you're not really helping at all.

The knowledge kids get and the self-confidence they nurture is the true reward of going to school. Yes you can do something nice or fun for your kids if they do something extremely well. Go out to dinner. See a movie. But don't make it a habit that's predicated on the exact letter grade he or she gets on a report card.

As for grading the parents, well if they're paying their kids to learn, I'd have to give them a big fat F!

Do you pay your kids for good grades?

by on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:07 AM
Replies (11-20):
Linds2Horse
by Platinum Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 12:47 PM
My philosophy is that my son will earn more income as an adult the better he does in his job. Why should school be any different? My son is in the top 2 of his school, which is the highest rated elementary school in the state so I'm doing something right.
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the3Rs
by Bronze Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 9:40 AM
No, I don't - never have - never will.
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telecomgirl
by on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:59 AM

No....

AnGLInterrupted
by Kendall on Nov. 23, 2012 at 1:39 PM

Absoulutely not!!

mamamiajk
by Silver Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 1:58 PM

mine are all grown now but yes I did. They had great grades thrught and all were in the top ten students at a lg. school.

klamomma2
by Kaila on Nov. 29, 2012 at 2:05 PM

My kids aren't that old yet, my daughter is in first grade she doesn't have letter grades yet.  I wont pay for A's or so much for B's, but if they did their best I will reward them with something after the end of the semseter.  I already praise them when they come home with good paperwork, or tell me they learned something new, but I think they deserve a little treat after working so hard.  I like the other posters ideas, pedicures, dinner, chuck E. Cheese, movie night, ice cream etc.  

HisSweetheart07
by Platinum Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 8:04 PM

 No. We celebrate good grades but never pay for them.

AllieRambles
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 8:09 PM

My money grubbing teens get money only for A's.  But when they were smaller being proud was good enough.  I'm desperate to get them into a good university.  Selling blood is not above me, lol.  You know that in that last part I'm kidding, right. :-)

hollydaze1974
by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 8:19 PM
No, just tons and tons of praise. But, he WANTS the grades to stay in his academic clubs he loves so much, they require a B or above every grading period.

I guess I must be "lucky" that he defines a lot of himself by his self proclaimed "geekiness". A " C" isn't the end of the world...but it does take him away from his like minded friends for nine weeks.
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sparkyco2
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 11:03 AM

No, going to school and getting decent grades is her JOB, just like DH and i have jobs at home..... our DD is rewarded for good grades by doing extra ciricular activities at school ex.  gymnastics, soccer etc. 

if our DD gets a poor grade (i don't expect straight A's) on her report card, she knows she is going to miss out on Soccer, dance, or gymnastics until the next report card comes out with better grades on it. 

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