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Have you ever avoided having guests over because you don't think your house is up to par?

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I Refuse to Have People Over Because I'm Embarrassed About My House

by Mary Fischer

living room

The gorgeous living/dining/kitchen space in this photo is not mine. But I wish it was. And I guess that means it's confession time. I absolutely hate -- yes, I said HATE -- entertaining in any sense of the word. Whether it be hosting dinners, holiday parties, martini nights, or any sort of get together involving anyone other than my parents -- I really can't stand having people over.

And it's not because I'm antisocial or don't want to deal with cooking and cleaning for anyone other than myself, my husband, and my kid. It's because I'm embarrassed about the fact that the interior of my house has absolutely no decor going on whatsoever.

There aren't any pictures on the walls, mostly because I have an irrational fear of hanging pictures on the walls. I don't have cute little knick-knacks displayed on perfectly positioned console tables and shelves. My windows have no curtains hanging from them. And my furniture? Well, most of it could use a nice upgrade from the hodge podge of pieces my husband and I combined from our respective apartments when we got married almost 10 years ago. (It's kind of like a dorm room up in here, you guys.)

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And I know my true friends don't give a rat's behind about what the inside of my house looks like and probably don't even notice the lack of decor when they come over. However, I'm painfully aware of the eye pleasing and attractive interiors of their homes every time they host some sort of gathering. Whenever I so much as set foot in one of their chic, stylish houses, I get a sinking feeling in my gut -- because I know my own pad doesn't even come close to measuring up.

It's not that my husband and I don't want our house to look nice or that we don't have the means to make it look somewhat put together and polished. I think the problem lies in the fact that neither one of us really has the time or energy to put in the effort required to turn our home into a showplace. And even if we did find time to give decorating a whirl, neither one of us has any sort of vision as to where to begin. (We're such a lost cause. It's hopeless.)

But who knows? Maybe one of these days, the decorating fairy will show up on our doorstep with a magic wand and transform our house into something that resembles the pages of the Pottery Barn catalog.

But until then, I guess we're just going to have to find other suitable places to party.

Have you ever avoided having guests over because you don't think your house is up to par?

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brownhoney21
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:10 PM

 No.

SassyWildflower
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 2:23 PM

nope, never. 

My house isn't fancy and we don't have a ton of nice, new things but it's our home, it's clean and it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

I don't feel the need to compare my home or my life to those of anyone else.

SarahSuzyQ
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 3:00 PM

YES. I have really serious anxiety over this, actually, and my husband thinks it's kind of ridiculous. I feel like my house has to be spotless and perfect before inviting people in... But I am not so critical of everyone else's housee, so I'm not sure why my own standard is so high.

For me, it's not about decor. It's about tidiness, organization, presentation. My decor is what it is, but I sure don't want to find an extra cobweb in my stairwell when people are visiting!

QuiltLover
by Jocelynn on Mar. 20, 2013 at 3:04 PM
I dont have this fear nor would any of my friends feel bothered by visiting....kinds like if you arent comfortable in my house, we're probably not really friends.
Crissy2424
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 6:01 PM
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Entertain who? We have a handful of friends that RARELY visit us. Heck, our family only comes down once a year (minus my  mom) and that is for our DD's birthday. That's it. And if our friends happen to come over I'll clean up, but once it is clean idk what anyone has to say about it...it is our home.

harmony7
by on Mar. 20, 2013 at 7:15 PM

 Yes

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rocamom
by Platinum Member on Mar. 20, 2013 at 7:38 PM

Nope.. I love my house and that's all that matters to me.. :)

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