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Please help my best friends addicted to drugs

Posted by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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so a little background my best friends a drug addict and sex addict and alcohol....shes been doing this since highschool and it wasnt very bad at first then i moved off to college....i come back and i see all this happening she went from being healthy too being so skinny her rib cage shows. She got involved with this guy and now hey broke up and hes sending pretty much porn to her family and friends of her


SO i got a call a bit ago from her mom.shes freaking out! ( She lives across the world) No one has heard from her and shes been freaking out over these pictures and she was suppose to go to rehab but i guess didnt. I cant find her and I dont know what 2 do shes my best friend BUT I have 2 small infants asleep. I have to protect my kids first. This is not highschool I can not go drive around looking for her......I am so worried about her and her x is texting me all this horrible stuff about drugs and std's and he turned her phone into the cops....


I am a mom and a grown up now! I shouldnt have to deal with this! But i cant turn my back on my friend.....


what should i do

by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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letstalk747
by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:39 PM
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you said it , ,,,, what can you do , ,,, with 2 infants nothing really , but wait for her to contact you hopefully

EDDES
by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:43 PM
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 I will pray about this right now.

Heavenly Father, Thank you Dear God, for what you know and that you know exactly what is going on here; please God protect this young lady from the devil and keep her safe from the crazy stuff that is happening here; please bring her safe to her parents immediately and please God help her to break this addiction that has made her so sad in her life, I pray in the Wonderful Name of Jesus Christ Our Risen Lord and Saviour, Amen.

SarahLizyB
by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:44 PM
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There is nothing you can do. You cannot make an addict get help until they're ready. I would know. Im sorry and my heart aches for her and her family :(
twinsforlove
by on May. 2, 2012 at 10:51 PM
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Quoting EDDES:

 I will pray about this right now.

Heavenly Father, Thank you Dear God, for what you know and that you know exactly what is going on here; please God protect this young lady from the devil and keep her safe from the crazy stuff that is happening here; please bring her safe to her parents immediately and please God help her to break this addiction that has made her so sad in her life, I pray in the Wonderful Name of Jesus Christ Our Risen Lord and Saviour, Amen.

Thank you I just got ahold of her and idk what to do. Shes so depressed and i feel like shes giving up on life. I think she needs rehab but idk how to make her see it :(

CoeyG
by on May. 2, 2012 at 11:06 PM
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There is nothing you can do.  She is an adult and you are not responsible for her.  You are responsible for your family period.  If she is an addict then there really is not much you can do for her unless she wants help.   You can't make her go to rehab.  You can't make her want to go to rehab.  She has to want that all on her own 

Browncoat4eva
by on May. 3, 2012 at 2:36 AM
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You really can't do anything. I know that hurts and is hard but she's responsible for the choices you made; you with babies do not want to be dragged anywhere remotely near that lifestyle.

I know you wish you could fix your friends problems for her, but you can't. You can only let her know you're there for her when she chooses to fix them.

Peace, and all that jazz...


~Mackenzie 


a Browncoat4eva 


...I'm a leaf on the wind. Watch me soar...

snuggiewoogie
by on May. 3, 2012 at 7:55 AM
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 She has to make the choice herself to stop using drugs herself. It's not an easy choice but it can be done. There is nothing you can do. An addict is an addict they can only help save themselves. All you can do is keep telling her the grass is much greener on the other side of the fence and hopefully she will head over to the greener side :)

betsystipo
by on May. 3, 2012 at 8:39 AM
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I agree with the others - there is nothing you can do.  Encourage her to go to rehab, tell her you love her, but beyond that...theres nothing you can do.  I hope she gets the help she needs

EDDES
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:30 AM

 Okay....................God brought her back for a a reason, she definitely needs the help, to pull her out of the hole she is in; now, is the time to trust in Your God and tell her that she needs help.

All that you are going to do now, is pray and support her verbally and that is it; you have your family to take care of and they come before anyone else but God, God is first always in our lives.

Trust in your God and Pray to Him for answers and for the devil to stay away from your friend because the devil is the problem behind the scenes.

 kiteShe can break this addiction but she has got to be willing to go for it. Once she breaks this addiction, she will truly be free to move forward and ahead in her life.

Part of breaking any addiction, is to admit that the problem is there and that there has to be work done, to resolve the problem and finally get rid of the addiction for once and for all. She has got to make that decision and now is the time.

80s bluei love being here; thank you for spending time with me and sharing your thoughts. 

twinsforlove
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:50 AM
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Quoting EDDES:

 Okay....................God brought her back for a a reason, she definitely needs the help, to pull her out of the hole she is in; now, is the time to trust in Your God and tell her that she needs help.

All that you are going to do now, is pray and support her verbally and that is it; you have your family to take care of and they come before anyone else but God, God is first always in our lives.

Trust in your God and Pray to Him for answers and for the devil to stay away from your friend because the devil is the problem behind the scenes.

 kiteShe can break this addiction but she has got to be willing to go for it. Once she breaks this addiction, she will truly be free to move forward and ahead in her life.

Part of breaking any addiction, is to admit that the problem is there and that there has to be work done, to resolve the problem and finally get rid of the addiction for once and for all. She has got to make that decision and now is the time.

I talked with her last night and shared Jeff Bates testamonie with her. While she was listening to it i called and emailed rehab centers and i think i found the perfect one for her. The only prob is her dad is a worse addict then her so i also got in touch with hher mom (whos clean and lives across the world) She is trying to come down and help out. My friend wants to go to rehab shes scared though but I know she can do it

if you dont know who Jeff Bates is hes a singer who was addicted to meth its a sad story and it made her cry. But his story is what helped me stay strong for my kids dad all these years but of course we left when he wouldnt change but still    

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