I need advice...... I don't know how it handle this..... Please no trashing and bashing....
My daughter has been friends with another little girl. They were in school together last year. This little girl can be manipultive at times and bossy to Jenna. For the most part there friendship seemed alright. My daughter was gonna have her 1st sleep over at her house this Saturday night. Everything was set!
Well last night the girls were talking on the phone. The little girl 's birthday is apparently coming up in July and she invited Jenna to go to Six Flags and spend the day swimming. Now keep in mind this is not the 1st time this has come up Jenna has been invited all week long. My response to Jenna was I will let you go but I will have to go with you and keep an eye on you because Jenna can't swim very well and needs more swimming lessons. So Jenna puts the little girl on the phone I tell her Jenna can go with them but I would have to tag along. It's the way it is and Six Flags wants kids to be with an adult if they can't swim. It's there rules.
Anyway Jenna is back on the phone with the girl and 5 minutes later she comes up to me crying and says She forgot she already invited another friends "A real friend" who can go swimming with her. Then they go back to talking and I picked up the phone to hear what in the world was going on. She was basically was saying that Jenna was not good enough to go cause she does not swim well. Then the girl was bad mouthing me saying I was the one who made my own daughter upset.
Well at that my husband has heard Jenna crying hurt upset and we decided that it would not be a good idea with the way things were going to let them have the sleepover this weekend.So I told Jenna she would have to cancel this. My husband tells Jenna this girl is not your friend she was playing you like a violin. She found out you could not swim very well and decided to invite someone else. My child is so hurt and upset by the whole thing and now she blames us her parents for not letting her go to the sleepover. We did not feel good about it since the way all this went down. Basically we would like this friendship between these too to end.
What do you do when your child is hurting like this?? Did we handle this well?? I have no idea... This is the 1st bump in the road. I have been up most of the night crying. I hate how mean and cruel kids can be to each other. I know it's part of life. There will be many things that hurts. This is just her 1st lesson on how cruel life can be.
So this is so long..... I just wanted to vent and see what you all think.....