Kind of irritated

[Rylansmommy386]

So i have 3 boys. 5, 2 1/2, and 9 months. The 5yr old and 2 1/2yr old are like bffs for the most part but like everyone else they need time apart. Now we dont have the money to take them out for one on one time and DH works late so simply taking one to the park isnt possible.
My MIL is always "that grandma" she prides herself on her grandsons and always wants to be the ones whose there for them. My parents live further away so they dont get to see them often.
We dont ask for their help often. Once in a blue moon we ask them or DHs dad to babysit. But i hope MIL will take either the 5yr old or 2 1/2yr old for the night so they can get some time apart. But the irritating part is my hubby has to ask. Cause if i ask i get treated like im trying to pawn them off and told no. Ummm if i was trying to pawn one of my kids off on you wouldnt you think i would be trying to pawn them ALL off? I just physically cant seperate them cause i dont have anyone else to watch the other two until DH gets home and then its getting dark and i dont feel comefortable with my kids being at a park at night and we dont have the money to really do anything else because we are trying to dig ourselves out of a hole while getting our 5yr old ready to start kindergarten

[Necie72]

Sorry...  I'm a single mom and only have my mom or my niece...  I tend to ask my niece more because she has kids for DD to play with and she enjoys being with her cousins...  My mom will call me and ask me how long I'm going to be or if I call her, she makes it like I'm not trusting her...  Can't win...  I say just have DH ask and use them as much as possible...  LOL

[Rylansmommy386]

Well we dont really have money to go out all of the time so whats the point of getting her to babysit when we arent doing anything. It may just be me being paraniod about it but it seems like everytime i would call the answer would be no and if hubby calls Hes more likely to get a yes. So i just told him to call from now on.

Quoting Necie72:

Sorry...  I'm a single mom and only have my mom or my niece...  I tend to ask my niece more because she has kids for DD to play with and she enjoys being with her cousins...  My mom will call me and ask me how long I'm going to be or if I call her, she makes it like I'm not trusting her...  Can't win...  I say just have DH ask and use them as much as possible...  LOL

[Rylansmommy386]

Oh and i should add that when we do go out on a date night she knows at least one of us will probably be drinking. Usually we go out to EAT and have a few drinks with dinner. But knowing we are going to eat, shes never ready for us to bring them to her til around 6 or so and by then we are starving and then we have to go home by 10:30 or so cause as soon as their feet hit the floor shes calling wanting us to come get them. Which is usually about 7am if not earlier so we normally just ask his dad (he lives across the drive) to walk over and sit with them until we get home. I know she is doing us a favor and it should be on her terms so complaining sounds ungrateful but, come on? We dont ask often usually once every few months. I could totally understand it if we asked every weekend.

[Bleacheddecay]

When the 2 1/2 year old and 9 month old take a nap, spend some special time with your five year old then.

Although it's not okay how your MIL treats you, that's also something your husband should work on. As in, "Mom, it is NOT okay to treat my love and the mother of my kids that way."

*hugs*

[Charli627]

 i guess till your dh addresses that with his mom, then have him ask. i dont know any other advice as my sister would watch my ds sometimes.

[CoeyG]

Who's children are these?  Your's or your inlaws?  Who was it who chose to have three children?  You or your inlaws?  Your inlaws are not responsible for caring for your children.  I suggest that if you need help to hire a "mother's helper" usually a young person from the community who will come in and help you with your kids.  Your parents and your inlaws don't have to watch your children and if ytou were my daughter/dil always asking you'd get the old "No" from me as well.  If I wanted to take care of another child I'd have one, or adopt one of my own.  

[Rylansmommy386]

You must have not read the whole post. We hardly EVER ask. Every once in a blue moon we ask. Intake care of my kids.

Quoting CoeyG:

Who's children are these?  Your's or your inlaws?  Who was it who chose to have three children?  You or your inlaws?  Your inlaws are not responsible for caring for your children.  I suggest that if you need help to hire a "mother's helper" usually a young person from the community who will come in and help you with your kids.  Your parents and your inlaws don't have to watch your children and if ytou were my daughter/dil always asking you'd get the old "No" from me as well.  If I wanted to take care of another child I'd have one, or adopt one of my own.  

[CoeyG]

Quoting Rylansmommy386:

You must have not read the whole post. We hardly EVER ask. Every once in a blue moon we ask. Intake care of my kids.

Quoting CoeyG:

Who's children are these?  Your's or your inlaws?  Who was it who chose to have three children?  You or your inlaws?  Your inlaws are not responsible for caring for your children.  I suggest that if you need help to hire a "mother's helper" usually a young person from the community who will come in and help you with your kids.  Your parents and your inlaws don't have to watch your children and if ytou were my daughter/dil always asking you'd get the old "No" from me as well.  If I wanted to take care of another child I'd have one, or adopt one of my own.  

So "once in  blue moon" hire a babysitter.  Your parents and inlaws are not responsible for your children period.

[Rylansmommy386]

Uhhh no i dont trust strangers around my kids. Ill stick to my family

Quoting CoeyG:

Quoting Rylansmommy386:

You must have not read the whole post. We hardly EVER ask. Every once in a blue moon we ask. Intake care of my kids.

Quoting CoeyG:

Who's children are these?  Your's or your inlaws?  Who was it who chose to have three children?  You or your inlaws?  Your inlaws are not responsible for caring for your children.  I suggest that if you need help to hire a "mother's helper" usually a young person from the community who will come in and help you with your kids.  Your parents and your inlaws don't have to watch your children and if ytou were my daughter/dil always asking you'd get the old "No" from me as well.  If I wanted to take care of another child I'd have one, or adopt one of my own.  

So "once in  blue moon" hire a babysitter.  Your parents and inlaws are not responsible for your children period.

[CoeyG]

Quoting Rylansmommy386:

Uhhh no i dont trust strangers around my kids. Ill stick to my family

Quoting CoeyG:

Quoting Rylansmommy386:

You must have not read the whole post. We hardly EVER ask. Every once in a blue moon we ask. Intake care of my kids.

Quoting CoeyG:

Who's children are these?  Your's or your inlaws?  Who was it who chose to have three children?  You or your inlaws?  Your inlaws are not responsible for caring for your children.  I suggest that if you need help to hire a "mother's helper" usually a young person from the community who will come in and help you with your kids.  Your parents and your inlaws don't have to watch your children and if ytou were my daughter/dil always asking you'd get the old "No" from me as well.  If I wanted to take care of another child I'd have one, or adopt one of my own.  

So "once in  blue moon" hire a babysitter.  Your parents and inlaws are not responsible for your children period.

Then quit whinning.  Your parents and inlaws are not responsible for watching your children.