I have such a difficult time with intolerance to my daughter's autism ..
People are usually intolerant of things they don't understand.
It's hard hon. I have dealt with it too. My oldest son has autism.
That seems to be the case, CoeyG.. Even from those who think or profess they understand.. still find they don't when it gets down to it." Sad.. Even from a person who has known my daughter several years and has 2 sons on Autistic spectrum.. but perceives that my daughter has far more "social analytical skills" than she has.. My daughter is awesome.. don't get me wrong.. but social skills are very difficult for her and people think she should have or does have far greater skills than she actually has.. very disappointing when it is a longtime friend judging her in this way.. ..
My daughter has HFA also. Administrators at her school, friends, family, look at her and don't get why she says, does "inappropriate" things.. Actually, she is hilarious, quirky, creative.. so proud of what a good person she is as a teen.. no drugs/alc, no bad behaviors.. just offends others, I guess, with "inappropriate" statements.. Don't get why people can't just relax on their own expectations and embrace the differences that may challenge their thinking..
It is hard and I hope your son is doing well.. We are fortunate to have a federal program our daughter qualifies for to get intensive in home wraparound care with Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) therapy. It has been the only thing that has made a positive difference for her and for us for the past 3 yrs. All the other therapies/interventions prior were useless.. Things are not perfect, but improving for sure!!
Don't mean to complain.. My daughter is the major blessing in my life.. and bet your sons are to you too!!.just difficult when others don't get that difficulties socially are not willful bad behaviors.. For a long time I just tried to comply with what Dr.'s told me and later on, realized I knew better and that they were often sadly wrong.. only helpful treatment we have found is Applied Behavioral Analysis.. which I guess is best helpful when kids are a little older. She is doing so much better now. Gives hope. But worry as any parent how she will get along when she decides she wants to leave home..Will always be there for her to help and to advocate..
Thanks for responding. New here, so not sure how all this works. Do you also have a child on the autistic spectrum? It is sad all the intolerance in the world..peers most of all for teens on the autistic spectrum.. kids can be so cruel not necessarily knowing the effects of what they do/don't do.. I am hoping to find others who understand all this here!!
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