Now co-sleeping or bed sharing is most definitely not for everyone. Some parents dig it. Some parents don't. There are babies that do better in cribs or prefer the no-contact sleep. There are some babies born with Velcro on their bellies (Oh hello, daughter!) or colic or reflux or something that makes sleep more difficult. And there is every kind of baby in between. For us, co-sleeping started out as survival, plain and simple. My son was my first baby and I had planned on having him in a basinet in the room with me for the first three months and then moving him into his own crib, in his own room. That's the way I had seen it done in many families and it worked for them. So I didn't think about it much. But then I brought my baby home from the hospital and everything I thought that I thought was blown out of the water.
I read articles and books on bed sharing. I needed some relief from the exhaustion because it didn't matter where my baby slept; he only slept for forty five minutes to an hour. Like ever. Whether in the bassinet, in the co-sleeper in the bed, in the crib for naptime, in the bouncer, stroller and even the floor. It just didn't matter where you put him. He had a limit. And when time was up, so was he. So he never left the co-sleeper in our bed (until he outgrew it and then was just in the bed). I tried bringing the crib in our room. Then I turned the crib into a side car of the bed. Finally one day after about six or so months of trying this and that and everything else, I said to myself, "What am I doing? Just let it be and quit worrying about it" and the rest is history.
We had officially become a bed sharing family.
I remember believing before I brought my baby home that co-sleeping was somehow dangerous. And it can be if done wrong. Just like it is dangerous to leave a baby in a rickety or broken crib. If co-sleeping/bed sharing is something you are interested in, be sure to follow the safety advice and guidlines here and happy sleeping!
How do you feel about bed sharing? Have you ever tried it? Did you love it or hate it?
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