Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

When An Important First Is Also A Last

Posted by   + Show Post

My husband walked into our bedroom one night last week and announced "Vivi is sleeping in panties, I took her crib rail off and she has been instructed to wake one of us up if she needs help going potty." While my first thought should have been "Oh, crap. I'm going to have a toddler on the loose with no where to contain her." my actual first thought was "That's it. She's not a baby anymore. She has nothing left to outgrow." That fact has been sitting on me ever since.

Don't get me wrong, I love a good self-reliant child, but any firsts from here on out will be a whole lot different than first solid food, first tooth and first steps.

I'm sentimental about firsts, I always have been. It seems to make the mundane day-to-day tasks of parenting a little more exciting when you rephrase another normal day as "Today was the first time Addie tried summer squash" or "Today was Vivi's first time on a Ferris wheel." I can look back at pictures and tell my girls "That was the first time your rode the bus to school" or "That was the day before you lost your first tooth." Oh man, can we just stop for a minute and talk about losing teeth?

There's something so sad about having a part of your child that you wept tears for (becuase you cried during the terrible process of teething too, right?) fall out of their mouth. Suddenly there's this hole where a tiny little tooth used to be and a giant grown up tooth moves in to take its tiny little place. Once the big teeth start coming in, that's when you can't live in baby denial anymore.

So Vivi's crib rail is gone, and she's made the transition into toddlerhood very loudly. In a few weeks she'll have her first day of preschool, before you know it one of those tiny little teeth in her mouth will fall out and it will be the beginning of the end. Perhaps I'm just extra sentimental because I don't think there are any more babies in our future, this is kind of it. What if I never get to rock a little tiny body to sleep again? While there have been a lot of firsts to celebrate, I also find myself mourning the lasts. (Like the last nap, am I right?)

But I'll keep chronicling the firsts: first day of a new grade, first date, first zit, first kiss, first trophy,  first broken heart, first Nobel Peace Prize, but I will never forget those little firsts that were such huge steps into making my babies into grown-up people.

What firsts are you most looking forward to (or leaving behind)?

by on Aug. 14, 2014 at 3:35 PM
Replies (11-20):
by Bronze Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 10:38 AM

I looked for ward to weaning them but then I remember being sad about it too.

by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 12:26 PM
All of them! I love firsts and new beginnings. :)
by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 12:45 PM
Everything. I love firsts, and as our kids have grown I've realized that the firsts aren't limited to young kids. There's always a first somewhere.
by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 1:49 PM
We are doing a little something for her.

Quoting mrswillie: Are,you having a party?

Quoting sapphyre_rose: My daughters first birthday next month.
by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 1:50 PM
I meant walk without holding onto anything.

Quoting sapphyre_rose: I can't wait to see my daughter without holding onto anything.
by Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 1:55 PM

They grow up fast.

by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 3:29 PM

Timing him to brush his teeth!

by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 4:10 PM

I miss just having a baby, they grow too fast.

by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 4:25 PM

The first time going on the potty is awesome! 

by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 4:26 PM

my DD is 3, and she is pretty much done all babie stages....The only thing we have left is car seat and toddler bed.... And when those things come to pass... I will sit and cry.

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)