Just curious to see how others deal with it.
DH and I got married right out of highschool, but his first love (dated a couple years before we got together) proceeded to date his cousin (to stay close to DH or get back at him not sure which) and accidently have kids with him...so now she is stuck in the family. It is hell. She is at family functions...birthday parties, church every sunday etc. She is nice, but I see right through it and know she is nosey and keeps tabs on DH and his life.
I think the worst part though is that his family (who mind you couldn't STAND the girl when they were together) will talk crap about her around me and then be so nice to her face all the time. I'm sure they do the same to me.
I just try to remember that he is with me now and she is just part of his past.
There is a difference between hating someone and disapproving of 15 yrs olds having SEX. Yes, I hella disapproved of the relationship. She knows that and as a MOTHER I know that she understands my feelings now. I respect her, she has been though so much and has come through with such grace. I love her as fellow mom, as family. The past is the past...thankfully she's forgiven the way that I treated her as a teen. I wish I could go back and treat her well....she deserved better than what I gave her....no argument there.
Quoting MommyIsMyName90:
And I'm certainly glad some people are nice and don't fit the description of your last paragraph as much as you do. It takes a two faced, spying, lying, backstabbing psycho to know one!
So I went through issues with accepting her being around? Who wouldn't? 99% of the problem was I confided my feelings in YOU and you used them to be hateful to me just because I was pregnant and having a boy and was excited and you think every little post on facebook about it was a stab to you.
I'm over this, all of it. I have been ugly and so have you! I forgive you though, and suggest you learn to forgive also because it is making you a miserable, hateful person.
Quoting JustThe10ofUs:...you don't talk crap about people though, right? How many birthday parties did she attend?? What family functions?? Church EVERY Sunday??
Some people actually are NICE people....not two faced, spying, lying, backstabbing, psychos.
These posts were not posts to simply bash such as yours have been, they were asking for advice on situations I was trying to civilly work my way
through at the time.
When you're ready to realize there are other people's feelings involved besides your own (such as your husbands, kids, MY husbands and kids) then we're here.
Quoting JustThe10ofUs:There is a difference between hating someone and disapproving of 15 yrs olds having SEX. Yes, I hella disapproved of the relationship. She knows that and as a MOTHER I know that she understands my feelings now. I respect her, she has been though so much and has come through with such grace. I love her as fellow mom, as family. The past is the past...thankfully she's forgiven the way that I treated her as a teen. I wish I could go back and treat her well....she deserved better than what I gave her....no argument there.
Quoting MommyIsMyName90:
And I'm certainly glad some people are nice and don't fit the description of your last paragraph as much as you do. It takes a two faced, spying, lying, backstabbing psycho to know one!
So I went through issues with accepting her being around? Who wouldn't? 99% of the problem was I confided my feelings in YOU and you used them to be hateful to me just because I was pregnant and having a boy and was excited and you think every little post on facebook about it was a stab to you.
I'm over this, all of it. I have been ugly and so have you! I forgive you though, and suggest you learn to forgive also because it is making you a miserable, hateful person.
Quoting JustThe10ofUs:...you don't talk crap about people though, right? How many birthday parties did she attend?? What family functions?? Church EVERY Sunday??
Some people actually are NICE people....not two faced, spying, lying, backstabbing, psychos.
When you met your dh/so?
- Faith-Hope-Love
on Nov. 13, 2010 at 9:59 AM