Was married for 18 yrs then divorced...amicable he wasn't into family and kids. Was single for 3 yrs started dating and lived with someone for 8 yrs...he was very abusive and conrtolling. It took an illness for me to realise I had to get out or I would be dead. All this time I had been raising my granddaughter. She is 12. The abuse affected her also. It is hard but I am praying God leads us down the right path. This will be the first holiday in 8 years that is abuse/stress free. I am looking forward to it even though there is no money for gifts......our lives are more important.