Okay. About a few months ago my husband gave me an ultimatum. Find a better paying job or he was gonna kick me out at the first of the year. After a few weeks (cuz I couldn't have sex with him for obvious reasons) he said he would take it off the table if I promised to look hard for a job. I said yeah cuz now he has me miffed about giving me the choice. Well I found a better job with more money AND keeping the job I have now. I did some schooling online last year and didn't finish and was close to getting my Associates. NOW he wants me to get my transcripts and apply to another one to finsh at least the Associates degree. I can't afford my payments for student loans and the school is holding them. Can't tell him, long story. He said the only way (in my way basically) to get me "motivated" is the threaten me with divorce. He said I had to prove to him that I care and want to be here by finding a new job. Now I feel like saying I have a new job and say adios to him. I'm not sure if it's anger drivin but I jsut want to say see ya and I got that job for me and my 3 boys and leaving him anyway. IDK I want to but very scared to try and make it on my own. Any suggestions?