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Who starts it?

Posted by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 12:59 PM
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So when it comes time for intimacy with your mate, who starts it? If it is you, how do you do it? I am looking for ideas. I LOVE sex but am not very aggressive when it comes to starting it.

by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 12:59 PM
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JessPlus2
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 1:39 PM

For us when i do start it, its usually after a shower, and i just allow him to see me dressing lol, and i take my time... when he is in the mood, he usually starts with a little neck rub, and a kiss on the neck that slowly  moves down...

We also have one night of scheduled sex, I know some people hate the idea but it works for us. Saturday night is always sex night :) we both take a shower or bath and then its adult time.   I tell my friends that on Saturday nights we turn into porn stars, but just with each other. 

jrsmom333
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 1:43 PM
When I do it I just say get in the bedroom..lol he loves it and gets excited. Or I snuggle up to him and start rubbing his chest then move down to other places. And sometimes kissing him leads to it too.
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TurboMom81
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 2:12 PM

It's mostly him.  I'm not very aggressive either.  If I want it I just spray on his favorite scent and drape myself on him.

TurboMom81
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 2:15 PM

Actually, one time I came downstairs in this purple lacy Victoria's Secret lingerie.  He hopped right off his computer and chased me back up the steps!

ShannaBee
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 2:18 PM
Before I got pregnant I was the one mainly started things. With him I am less shy and agressive. I'd never initiated with anyone before but DH brings out my inner sex kitten and I am unashamed. He likes it. Sometimes I get a bruised ego when he rejects my advances. I'll wait a few days and when he's ready and feeling up to it he starts.
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jenbscott
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 7:16 PM
I never directly initiate it but I do things on purpose to get his attention. I'll walk out of the shower naked, wear something sexy, or bend over in front of him. But I ALWAYS pretend that I don't know what he's talking about when is asks "you did that on purpose, huh?!"

LOL
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MSully3
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 8:55 PM
That's pretty much how it works with BF and I. Sometimes ill b in my kitchen(its tiny) making a drink and he will come in pretending to look in the fridge just to 'accidently' touch me, or will just start rubbing my neck, back, and that leads to....fun ;)

Quoting jrsmom333:

When I do it I just say get in the bedroom..lol he loves it and gets excited. Or I snuggle up to him and start rubbing his chest then move down to other places. And sometimes kissing him leads to it too.
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ShannaBee
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 10:20 PM
Lol. I sometimes do it subtly like when I want it but I want him to make the move. I'll wiggle around alot like I can't get comfy especially with my back to him or I make sure my boobs brush against him. He always knows why I'm so antsy.


Quoting jenbscott:

I never directly initiate it but I do things on purpose to get his attention. I'll walk out of the shower naked, wear something sexy, or bend over in front of him. But I ALWAYS pretend that I don't know what he's talking about when is asks "you did that on purpose, huh?!"



LOL

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domenica_rose
by on Nov. 29, 2010 at 10:33 PM

We both do!!  Sometimes I just say something silly like "wanna come play?"  haha he gets the idea!!!

LovelyMother88
by on Nov. 30, 2010 at 12:07 AM

I do things that I know turns him on. But not directly, I act like I'm just going about my business. I'll get out of the shower and put boy shorts on and then bend over to get something in front of him. Works every time. Or I'll let him "catch" me in the middle of getting dressed without a shirt on, those things are like magnets, lol.

But if I don't feel like doing all that I just go grab his hand and take him to the bedroom, he likes that too.

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