Like lots of us in this group and world, I have found that men sometimes just don't get it. It's amazing when your talking right to them how they seem to not 'hear' you?
I know that he loves me and I of course love him but sometimes love drowns in the background and You are left on the frontlines. I am a SAHM and he works away sometimes weeks at a time.
I find it's sometimes easier when he's away. I can go at my own pace and if dinner is a little late no one complains. If I decide that makeup is not in my daily plan well that's good to. I firmly believe that staying apart for a while is a good thing.
I used to atribute the indifference to the fact that he was a bachelor for so long. Only having to worry about himself and doing just what ever he wanted to do and not answering to anyone. I thought that maybe in time, we meaning the kids and I, would become more than a second or third thought. Nope, didnt work that way. We still seem to be in the last thoughts of his mind.
Honestly I wrote this simply because I have read about husbands being almost the same as mine. The one thing I do know, that I did read here is that marriage is hard work. You have to be willing to take some things as they are in order to make it work. Not disrespect or abuse in any way but the little things that cause small arguments to blow up into something so much more. I have learned to close my eyes tight...take a thousand deep breaths and keep it moving.
I feel as if I'm always fighting, trying to push forward and just clearing my way enough to see. But with anything worth having is going to be hard to hold onto, maintain and grow. I believe in the power of women. Our minds, hearts and spirits are capable of so many things once we decide on a path to take.
I have to say my hubby works away for months at a time and i miss him so much but you are right when the hubby is gone i have my own routine and it feel s good. Marrige is hard and we have had some issues throughout our marrige, but the love and bond we have for each other will never break and we have proven that to one another!!
We've been married for almost 6 years and my husband still doesn't get things most of the time. Even some things as small as getting ready for church. We have FOUR kids. He STILL doesn't understand that he can't just wake up 30 minutes before church starts. He still does anyway and only gets himself ready. He doesn't do it on purpose most of the time. He's just, I don't know, lol. I have to get up THREE hours early to get myself ready and my kids ready. I also have to have time to nurse my newborn before we go. And after all that, HE is the one that still makes us late.
Okay, I'm rambling here, lol. But that was just an example of how my husband, aftter telling him time after time, doesn't get it.
He's been home due to a job loss and I have to say it was EASIER when he was working. You would think that with him being home, I'd have more help. But no, it's NOT!
I sometimes call him my fifth child!
k...vent over =)
this makes me feel soooo much better!! im not alone yay!!! my husband doesnt get alot of things LOL... i actually look forward to having a break from him. i regularly go see my mom with my kids in tow and leave for a week or 2 lol.... life is so much easier when hes not here... his days off stress me out like u wouldnt believe. he is my 3rd kid :-).. hes like a PP in the gettin the kids ready dept.... the other night my daughter had her school christmas program and i was gettin her ready curling her hair in the bathroom my husband comes in RIGHT in the middle of us and starts getitn himself ready!! i was like SEriOUSLY! u dont see me here doing her hair in our TINy bathroom?? GET OUT! lol... i made him get out. then he sat on his computer while i was doin this and my other daughter had no shoes or socks on and i asked him to get her socks and shoes on to save me about 10 mins LOl of chasing her and gathering her shoes and socks etc and gosh u woulda thought i asked him to cut off his penis! men just dont get it lol... i hate that i have to ASK for help he should just do it... i know ALOT of husbands do but mine doesnt lol... i have a good friend whos husband does alot of helping and im soo jealous LOL
LoL Yes, I also call mine my fourth child. He requires almost as much attention! But then we vowed to take care of them and love them for who they are and sometimes this is who they are. I have to admit that even with all of the grown man whining lol and selfishness that sometimes comes he still takes care of his family and with both of us together we still do pretty good...the occasional bumps and lumps occur but what is life without a little spice? thank you for your post...reminds me of home lol!
Quoting jenbscott:We've been married for almost 6 years and my husband still doesn't get things most of the time. Even some things as small as getting ready for church. We have FOUR kids. He STILL doesn't understand that he can't just wake up 30 minutes before church starts. He still does anyway and only gets himself ready. He doesn't do it on purpose most of the time. He's just, I don't know, lol. I have to get up THREE hours early to get myself ready and my kids ready. I also have to have time to nurse my newborn before we go. And after all that, HE is the one that still makes us late.
Okay, I'm rambling here, lol. But that was just an example of how my husband, aftter telling him time after time, doesn't get it.
He's been home due to a job loss and I have to say it was EASIER when he was working. You would think that with him being home, I'd have more help. But no, it's NOT!
I sometimes call him my fifth child!
k...vent over =)
not sure why it is bothering me but
- PaganMomma40
on Dec. 3, 2010 at 9:04 AM