Like lots of us in this group and world, I have found that men sometimes just don't get it. It's amazing when your talking right to them how they seem to not 'hear' you?
I know that he loves me and I of course love him but sometimes love drowns in the background and You are left on the frontlines. I am a SAHM and he works away sometimes weeks at a time.
I find it's sometimes easier when he's away. I can go at my own pace and if dinner is a little late no one complains. If I decide that makeup is not in my daily plan well that's good to. I firmly believe that staying apart for a while is a good thing.
I used to atribute the indifference to the fact that he was a bachelor for so long. Only having to worry about himself and doing just what ever he wanted to do and not answering to anyone. I thought that maybe in time, we meaning the kids and I, would become more than a second or third thought. Nope, didnt work that way. We still seem to be in the last thoughts of his mind.
Honestly I wrote this simply because I have read about husbands being almost the same as mine. The one thing I do know, that I did read here is that marriage is hard work. You have to be willing to take some things as they are in order to make it work. Not disrespect or abuse in any way but the little things that cause small arguments to blow up into something so much more. I have learned to close my eyes tight...take a thousand deep breaths and keep it moving.
I feel as if I'm always fighting, trying to push forward and just clearing my way enough to see. But with anything worth having is going to be hard to hold onto, maintain and grow. I believe in the power of women. Our minds, hearts and spirits are capable of so many things once we decide on a path to take.