Not wanting sex. need advice!

This exactly. Think of it this way... To get in the mood to even have sex you need to feel attractive, wanted, desired. Can you really feel that way if he's talking down to you like you are nobody? I went through the same things with my ex. I wish you luck.
Quoting sweetheart5703:
I think the attraction is not there anymore. He is emotionally abusive to you, and because of it, you don't feel that strong love connection and attraction. He also needs to stop asking IMO. I hate when guys ask. My ex was a sexaholic, he wanted it ALL the time. He also cheated on me, and physically abused me at one point in time. Well once the trust is gone, and you feel worthless, I can understand why you wouldn't want to have sex with him. He needs to step up his game. I mean what you did is completely wrong, cheating is a terrible thing. I think both of you need to go to counseling, work out some anger issues. Then I would get back to the basics. Try to remember what attracted you to him in the first place. Maybe you guys can get a babysitter, and go out for dinner, and drinks or something, and rekindle the romance a bit. In the meantime as long as he is talking shit to you, your not going to want to sleep with him. Nothing is going to turn you on, if you don't feel appreciated, and wanted in a good way. He is also most likely acting like this because he is sexually frustrated. You guys have to meet somewhere in the middle, or it will continue like this. Good luck.

Screw talking to him! that's not working, you have already left once and came back if your willing to put up with it why would he change when he can do what he wants. of course your not interested in having sex with him he's a jerk and treats you like crap if you want to make your marriage work and get your drive back tell him you want to go to therapy, get some help for you both and get some one on one therapy for him because he is abusing you. just because he doesn't leave a visible mark doesn't mean he's not leaving scars. GET SOME HELP FAST. i've been in the same situation and if you don't get out or get some help it will just get worse and maybe even dangerous.
I don't mean to sound to harsh I'm just telling you how it is
I'll keep you in my prayers.

your children are very young. my best advice would be leave the children with someone so that you 2 can have a seriouse talk. ask him to go for counseling he needs to understand that he has a problem. and very low self estem. this is not good for your kids to hear this kind of verble abuse. if he does not want to go leave him and hopefully he will change his mind about the help. our children depend on us to care for them. good luck.
- babyvader07
on Dec. 14, 2010 at 10:43 PMBUMP!