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what would you do need help now

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for about the last year or so my husband and i have been wlaking on egg shells we have been on two toatly different pages. He had an affair with my best friend well ex best friend not even 3 weeks ago then he has this porn fetish that absolutely drives me insane he is always comparing me to the girls he sees and now i find evidence that he is talking to his ex on the computer all the time and many other women at that i stay home with our two lil ones im not allowed to have friends i go no where i do nothing but take care of the kids cook clean and wash his clothes please someone help i dont know wht to do anymore.

by on Dec. 27, 2010 at 9:37 AM
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by on Dec. 27, 2010 at 12:59 PM


Quoting -Mattel-:



by on Dec. 27, 2010 at 1:05 PM

There are many marriages that can survive infedelity, but those marriages the offending spouse also shows remorse and would move mountains to repair the damage they caused.

It does not sound like your DH is in that group.  And from what little you have shared, he sounds controlling and emotionally abusive.  This will only get worse for you.

If you do not have anywhere to go, seek out a womens' shelter.  Aside from offering a safe place to stay, they also have a large number of other services at your disposal, such as legal advice, financial help and so on.

Hugs to you.

by on Dec. 27, 2010 at 1:08 PM
You need to search your heart, do you want to leave, do you want to forgive him and work on your relationship? The most important (to me anyway) is to remember the way you allow your husband to treat you is how your daughters will think their husbands are to treat them this way or your sons will think that's how a man is to treat is wife....again circulating the abuse. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do!
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