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TMI but I need some help!

Posted by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:29 AM
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 I wasn't sure where to put this, but I figured it would be ok here...

I had my first baby almost 10 months ago. I had a 2nd degree tear that had to be stitched up. DH and I waited 7 weeks to have sex. It hurt like hell, but I was told it would so I didn't think anything of it. My post partum visit was at 9 weeks (due to my crazy schedule not lining up with my OB's) She told me I was still healing and should wait one more week to have sex. So I did. But it still hurt like crazy.

Well that pain got a little better but then after a couple of months it came back. Every time it feels like I am being ripped apart and acid being poured on open wounds inside me. Then when dh gets about half way in my body starts spasming and pushing him out. That makes the entire area hurt even worse. We have used different kinds of lube and foreplay, but nothing helps. I know I should go see a Dr. but we don't have insurance and don't really have the money to just pay for it out of pocket. I cry every time because of the pain and because of the emotional part of not being able to be intimate with my husband. He tries so hard to be patient and supportive, but I know this is really hard for him too. Anyone have any ideas what this could be or what can help?

by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:29 AM
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LovelyMother88
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:37 AM

Oh no, I'm so sorry. I have no idea what the problem could be. I would suggest going to the doctor but like you said, you can't. I wonder if maybe there was a nerve that tore along with your skin??

jessi217
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:40 AM

Wow, that really sucks. When I didn't have insurance, I went to Planned Parenthood. I know this isn't a birth control issue, but they could still do an exam to see if you have any tissue damage that hasn't repaired itself. They performed my treatment when I had abnormal cervical cells, so they do do more than prescribe pills and give out condoms. Good luck, keep us posted!

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Godblessedmex4
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 2:16 AM
You know a few months ago DH and. Were watching some show on tlc, I think its called strange sex and This exact same thing happened to a woman after having her first child and it was due to nerve damage during the delivery. She put up with the pain for something like 3 years. Finally she went to see a specialist about it and was told because she went for so long with out it being treated the damage was more than likely permanent. She went through 2 surgeries by the end of the show and the written update just before the credits said she was still in pain during intercourse but had a few more surgical avenues to follow before giving up. I'm sorry you are dealing with this! It sounds tough! Good luck and big huggs.
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Mommabug10
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 10:53 AM

 Thanks for the responses ladies. I have thought about going to Planned parenthood. I used to go there for all my exams. But one time I went in for a problem I was having and the dr. kept trying to get me to pay $100 for a herpes test, mostly because she didn't know what it was. I kept telling her it wasn't possible for it to be herpes. So FINALLY she called another dr for a second opinion and they told her it was just an infection. So anyway, I just have a hard time trusting them now.

Wow, that is scary, maybe I will ask my mom if I can borrow money then and go see a dr. I don't want to go through all that! And I sure don't want this to be permanent!!!

lind.shep
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 10:57 AM
Try calling your local health department. The one here has a sexual health clinic, or maybe they can point you towards a community womens clinic. Both here are based on income on a sliding fee scale.
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sew4fun
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 11:56 AM

OUch! Im sorry mama I do not know what it could be. Try to locate a Planned Parenthood around you , they have discounted if not free services .


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by Slightly Perfect on Jan. 4, 2011 at 12:01 PM

You can also try a local healthcare clinic. I used to work at an abortion clinic that was not PP. I know there are tons in various areas.

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 Thanks for the responses ladies. I have thought about going to Planned parenthood. I used to go there for all my exams. But one time I went in for a problem I was having and the dr. kept trying to get me to pay $100 for a herpes test, mostly because she didn't know what it was. I kept telling her it wasn't possible for it to be herpes. So FINALLY she called another dr for a second opinion and they told her it was just an infection. So anyway, I just have a hard time trusting them now.

Wow, that is scary, maybe I will ask my mom if I can borrow money then and go see a dr. I don't want to go through all that! And I sure don't want this to be permanent!!!


LuvMyBrennaBean
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 12:06 PM

My hospital has a Women's Clinic, which I use as my OB/Gyn. Through the hospital, they offer financial assistance for those w/o health insurance, which is how I came to use them. Check with your hospital!

mommiecassie
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 12:10 PM

Borrow the money and go see a Doctor!!!! 

Serenity7
by Platinum Member on Jan. 4, 2011 at 12:41 PM

Only a doctor can answer your question. (((((((Hugs))))))

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